Husband chooses “fun/drinking” over his wife and son😞

There’s so much to even include. Thousands of instances and things I could say but it wouldn’t even amount to the sadness I feel day to day. They say it will get better. They say “deal with it differently”. They say “ make yourself happy and take care or your kid instead of worrying about him”.. but like how!? He’s in my life everyday. I have to deal with it all the time. He won’t get help. Doesn’t even try. I’m growing so tired- exhausted in every aspect. His own brother even contribute to his behaviors. They say I’m just trying to control him, when I’m trying to help him and our marriage. I’m over his irresponsibility/immaturity when he’s 35 years old. So many sleepless nights, either from him blacking out, or shitfaced or not even coming home. I’m tired and I’m sad. End vent 😔