Partner terrible at sex, despite a “colourful past”

So I’m interested in improving our sex life.

I haven’t had many sexual partners in my 30 years existence but thankfully most have been positive experiences and I have always enjoyed sex and consider myself a sexual person. Also happy to explore kinks and be adventurous. I prefer oral and foreplay over actual sex, but do enjoy having sex after those things as everything is heightened.

My partner, despite having a long list of sexual partners, 3sums etc has never been in a long term committed relationship (he travelled a lot with the army and work) We have been together two years and are expecting our daughter soon - he is a great provider and partner in every other way! But he is just so used to just not caring about satisfying the person he is with and is used to “getting his” and getting out, he has obviously never had anyone pull him up.

He always skips foreplay and when he tries it doesn’t feel very good and if I try to guide him he gets frustrated and upset but then feels terrible if we just have sex and he cums and I haven’t. I’m also getting over “just having sex” and find myself getting frustrated.

He is very willing to talk and have open communication and I have brought it up a few times before and god bless he does try! I think he just gets discouraged because it doesn’t always feel good so I may just be heavy breathing over my usual moaning and he gets discouraged, but I don’t want to fake things either. He also says he is ashamed at his age he can’t pleasure me the way I want to be.

Is there any reading material or even something visual he could read or watch to get an idea to know his way around a vagina and things he could try and implement? I feel this would be easier on him then me killing the mood having to correct him or talk to him during.

Has anyone else been in this boat? What worked for you? x

*Edit 1 - I am more than happy and willing to preform oral on him and pleasure him (I did a lot in the beginning, hand jobs, oral, oils, full body massages, lots of sensory play, sexy outfits when he’d come home from work) no complaints he says he loves it! If I ask him if there’s anything he is into or wanting he says no what you do is great! I stopped doing all this as it was never reciprocated and would usually end in a missionary quicky and I felt resentful. He does know this as again it’s something we’ve talked about.