We have actual sex maybe 3 times a year if that.

He says it’s bc I’m bigger now at 5’5 185 but I was 150 when we first got together and same thing. Which is odd bc if I was “too big for him” then, what made him want to become serious with me and eventually marry me...?

What makes me think it’s not my weight issue is when we first got together when he was 22 he didn’t even know his condominium size. He’s had a few gf’s before me but idk about their sex life. Is this odd? I have no idea.