Anyone lost a parent and just feel lost?

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Wasn’t sure where else to post and am in the UK so thought there might be someone else in the same position as me...
I lost my Mum when I was pregnant with my first child. It was a shock and far too soon but being pregnant I held it together and focused on baby. Now pregnant with baby number 2 a few years on and miss her more than ever. I have a huge support network but nobody can fill the role of my Mum. It’s her I want to seek advice and reassurance from, talk to, moan to and just spend time with. 
I don’t think il ever truly get over it, she was my best friend, but right now (clearly very hormonal) it’s hitting me so hard.
Anyone else been in a similar boat, have any ways of coping or dealing with how you feel? Does it get easier? 
Thanks in advance x

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Really sorry to hear you’re  feeling like this. Although I haven’t lost my mum, she is ill with stage 4 incurable bowel cancer. She was diagnosed last summer and hubby and I decided to try for no2 ( 7 year age gap) after her diagnosis as suddenly we realised life is too short! Mum only turned 60 this April and we found out we was pregnant that day!
Baby no2 is due in January and the thought of my mum not being around in the future is almost traumatic for me at times as I’m and only child and she is my best friend.
Although I’ve not lost her it almost feels like it sometimes because she isn’t the same person she was when I had my first and I feel very angry that we as a family are having to go through this.
I hope you find the strength and support you need lovely. Xxx

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I haven't lost my mum, but my husband has (a long time ago). Having our little boy and being pregnant is definitely hard knowing our children will miss out on having her, but she is always talked about and our little boy mentions her all the time. Although I never met her, it's like she's still with us.
I was more close to my aunt growing up and I lost her when my little boy was 5 weeks. Although it's been hard, I see so much of her in my boy and it's like she's still with us. I can't help but smile.
Although the pain never goes away, it does get easier over time. Keeping her a part of every day life will make it feel like she's still a part of everything.

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I haven’t lost a parent so cannot begin to understand your pain. I hope in time you find some peace and learn how to live day to day without your mum. Congratulations on your pregnancy. 💚

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Hey, so sorry for your loss. I cant imagine exactly what you're going through nor can I say you'll one day wake up and feel better (we all process and experience things differently), but i do understand what you mean about missing your mum especially when it comes to going through pregnancy and having lil ones. I lost my mum a few years ago and I found it difficult not having her around when i had my lil one last year, tbh its still hard especially when I see how grandparents dot over their grandchildren and I just know my son wont have that, not helped by the fact that my MIL passed away when he was 2 months old. I've learnt to accept my mum's absence and I still miss her, but it does hurt less now. Congratulations on your pregnancy, hope all goes well, sending you lots of positive vibes!xx

Anyone lost a parent and just feel lost?

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