Trying to rebuild trust after cheating ........ husband says I just want to control him??? Very long!!

So my husband and I have been together for 15 years and married for 5 we have 4 kids. He has cheated on me on and off through our whole relationship. We had finally gotten to a good place before the wedding. Then his mom died and he had an affair. Not just cheating a whole long term affair. We hadn’t even been married 6 months at this point. It went on for almost a year. Then he quit seeing her we got better for a while. Then an ex girlfriend of his found him on Facebook and he started cheating again. It was just a drunk booty call with her but went in for a few months till she got mad he didn’t want more with her and blasted it on Facebook. She posted pics of them half naked in bed at a hotel. Our daughter was only 3 months old then. I was gonna leave that time but 2 days later I found out I was pregnant again. The thought of having 3 kids alone and being pregnant with our fourth terrified me so I stayed. We worked it out. He turned on location on his phone and didn’t leave the house alone basically ever for a while. We started to get back to normal and everything seemed fine. Then a new girl started at his work and he turns his location off. Started staying late at work. Going out with guys from work a lot. Acting different. I knew immediately he was cheating again. His behavior is identical to before. I have confronted him a million times. He still denied it. I found credit card statement with proof and he still denied it. Anyway he won’t admit it but I know and I have told him I’m done. I found a lawyer. He swears he’s not doing anything and wants to be with me. So I tell him fine let’s work it out. But to do so I need u to rebuild the trust. I need location on at all times. He has to wear his wedding ring no excuses cause that’s been an issue since the wedding. And I want access to his phone. He said give him the month and he will do everything. The month comes and goes. Then he said by the end of the week. Didn’t happen. I ask him again today and he said I just want to control him. That he doesn’t want to do it anymore but he also doesn’t want a divorce. After everything he has put me through all the lies and cheating and pain he can’t simply do this for me. I know it’s really cuz he is still cheating with this girl and again we are coming up on a year of it. It’s a full on relationship with someone else. He got a new job a few months ago so they don’t work together anymore but have kept the affair going. I’m so lost. He knows I don’t want to be without him. I’ve been in love with this man since I was 16 years old we have 4 kids 3 are under 5. And I just started working again but I don’t make hardly anything. Like a fourth of what he does. Supporting my kids in my own will be almost impossible. Also our house is in his dads name so I have no legal claim to it. And my credit isn’t great do to him not paying the bills in my name on time. He cheated on me while I was pregnant with his children!!! And I got passed it for my kids so we can be a family. But now he has this new bitch on the side and he won’t leave her. I’m pissed and don’t know what to do. Anyway do I sound like I want to control him or is what I asked justified???