Here is our situation. Our lease ends this Monday. We have no place to move to set in stone. This is because my husband was waiting on a job opportunity and didn’t want to sigh a lease until he knew whether or not he got this job as it is in a different state. (I did not want to do this at all. I wanted a back up plan, he lost his shot and refused to talk with me about anything until he knew) now we are fucked and in a situation.

My last day of work was today. My husband currently works from home and can work anywhere. I’m in healthcare and could find a job literally anywhere. Here are the options we have.

We have a friend who lives in a different city about 3 hrs away. His family has opened their home up to us as long as we would need it. My husband wants to move here, which would be fine for me if we had a place to go. I don’t mind staying with a friend extremely short term, however our finances are tight and we wouldn’t be able to find a place we could tolerate in short time.

The other option is to go back home to his family. His parents are begging us to come back so they can spend time with their grand baby (they have only seen him once for a few days as they live 1000 miles away. ) the problem with this option is my husband is highly against because he doesn’t want to be live with his parents for any amount of time. He struggles with boundaries and is scared it will effect us. (His parents aren’t overbearing, his dad can just be manipulative. I personally have zero problem telling him to back off when he pushes) another issue is yet again finances. We could do it, but it would max out a credit card. (We could probably pay it off in two months after I get my job).

His long term goal (a year) is to move back to his home city/state but he is saying he just isn’t ready. I’m frustrated and feel like we just need to go home now and not put ourselves in more positions. If we went back to his home I could find temporary work and we would be able to move out of his parents within a month without adding to debt. Another thing is that my husband is still in the running for some jobs that are in the same state his parents are in.

I hope this isn’t too confusing and I can clarify if needed. We are in a pickle. What would you do?