Issues with a friend - would love some advice!

I posted last year about my friend who uninvited me to his wedding because I would have a baby. More stuff has happened and I would love your advice!!!!

I have been friends with this guy since we were around 12-13 (now 32). I considered him to be one of my best friends and he considered me to be one of his. He always talked about me being one of his ‘groomsmen’ if he ever got married.

He got into a relationship with someone and a couple of years later decided to propose. He asked me to go ring shopping with him which I did happily.

They got engaged and asked me to be their celebrant (which I had become a couple of years ago). Not long later I had to let him know that I was pregnant and would have a 5 week old baby at the time of their wedding. I still offered to be their celebrant if they wanted me, but told him I understood if they wanted to replace me, which they did.

Not only did they replace me as their celebrant (which again was fine), but he then uninvited me to their wedding, saying I should just stay home and focus on my family. I know they wanted a kid-free wedding but I don’t really think newborns fall into that category. He said I could come to the ceremony if I wanted, but wasn’t allowed to come to the reception.

I was honestly so hurt by this but decided to let it go because his fiancé was calling the shots and I know that the person you’re going to marry takes priority over a friend.

My partner then proposed to me and I planned my wedding in just 3 months.

I was umm-ing and ahh-ing about whether or not to invite this friend after being uninvited to his wedding, but my husband convinced me to be the bigger person so we sent him and his fiancé an invite.

This ‘friend’ called me to congratulate me but then questioned why I wanted to get married so fast, what was the rush, it was okay to have my baby first and we didn’t need a shotgun wedding etc. I let him know that my now husband and I have been together for years and didn’t want to wait any longer to be husband and wife (which I’m glad we did because this was February this year so we got in under the line before weddings had to be cancelled) and it was our decision to get married whenever we wanted to and that our baby was very much planned for so it wouldn’t be a shotgun wedding!!!

He then RSVP’d that he and his fiancé would come to the ceremony but not the reception because he had to work the next day. My wedding was only like 45 minutes from his home so he wouldn’t have needed to take time off work for it and could’ve been in bed by 10-11pm. AND I took two half days off work last year to go to his birthday party, yet he couldn’t come to my reception because he had to get an early night to go to work as a teacher the next day.

Do I have a right to be upset by how things have transpired? He never used to be like this. I honestly want to just delete him off FB and be done with it. But I also know I’m SUPER hormonal at the moment and may not be thinking clearly. Any advice or input would be greatly appreciated!!

Thank you for reading this far. 😊🌻🥰🌷