Rules for family during covid

My little one is 11 weeks old and since we had her we've had the told that only allowed people who are completely quarantined to hold her with a mask on. So my parents have only held her once, his parents have never. His mom works in a nursing home and dad travels for work as a salesman. His parents also don't take this seriously and have been going out, seeing ppl, no masks. My father is retired hasn't left the house other than to sit outside in my backyard since March, my mom recently had to go back to her office but otherwise goes nowhere else. My husband thinks we should have the same rules for both parents. I understand that but the more I think about it it pisses me off because I feel like he's saying they're the same when my parents are so serious about this and even willing to go get tested to be able to hold her just once. His parents act like we are killing them asking them to be more careful if they want to see her. Am I being crazy for wanting to change the rules to apply to each set of parents differently? What have you guys been doing for rules with grandparents? I just feel like I'm punishing my mom for being careful cause his mom isn't.