Guidance

My daughter is 9 months and i like her on a schedule meaning she naps around the same time and eats around the same time. For the most part she drinks her bottle around the same times. Sometimes she drinks it all other drinks she drinks a little bit. Husband and I got into a tiff tonight because we were going to in-laws house and I was planning my schedule around the travel especially when it came to naps she is a crappy nap taker so we planned that she would get there to in-laws before Everyone showed up that I would feed her and then take her for a walk in the stroller to have her fall sleep as expected she did not sleep for long I originally told my husband that i’d like to leave his moms house around seven in order to get her home feed her and put her to bed. We ended up leaving a little bit earlier than that and he just starts yelling at me that I have her on this regimented schedule that he can’t take anymore but by the way she screamed her head off the whole car ride home took me about 20 minutes, to calm her down once we got home she sucked down her bottle because she was so hungry and then I put it in bed and she fell right to sleep. He thinks that whenever we’re going to families houses I should be more flexible with her schedule and flexible means to me that I push back her feeding n naps by half hour or an hour flexible to me is not staying at someone’s house until 9 o’clock at night especially because she does not nap well at other places so an example schedule is that she usually will have her first bottle around 730 her naptime is around 10 she has her second bottle around 11 which is when she doesn’t really drink all of it I also give her a snack I gave her third bottle before she goes to her second nap which is around 130 she falls asleep at two wakes up around three then I feed her again around four and then she has dinner and then her last bottle is usually 630 and bedtime seven

would this be considered regimented? My husband is telling me l need to learn how to be more flexible and he doesn’t think I’m capable of doing that but am I out of my mind thinking that baby should be on a schedule when it comes to eating and sleeping??? He makes me feel like I’m doing with my daughters absolutely awful and that I am doing a disservice to her with the way that I’m doing things and he just doesn’t praise me for what I’m doing in a big step and way too regimented can someone please offer some advice or similar experience and also why does he even care I’m the one that takes care of her all day long