If I’m not ready now, will I ever be?

Question

Let’s say you have a boyfriend or girlfriend who has talked about marriage with you. They want to know what your opinion is of the future. I don’t feel like I’m ready for marriage. Reason being that recently we’ve had some pretty bad fights over his insecurities. I know that it’s not something I could deal with long term. I told him he needs some help and he agreed and wants to. I’m only 26 so I have time, he is 28 and feels as if he doesn’t. I don’t want to rush this at all. I want to be 100% certain and in a good place before saying yes to ANYONE. Do you think it’s possible to be “ready” another year or two down the line? Or is it just a waste of time if i am not now? We’ve been together for exactly one year.

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I would say that if you feel that you aren’t ready for a big commitment like that and you said it yourself he isn’t the man you would consider “long term” per say I would recommend to have that discussion with yourself and also consider some important questions, like, do I believe this is the person I am meant to be with? Is this person who I want not only to spend my life with but share every moment and every flaw with? Am I able to trust this man with my heart? And most importantly does this man have the same idea of life than me? If not, am I willing to continuously have arguments and discussion about my belief system with this man constantly to the point it becomes toxic etc. and about the age thing, it doesn’t matter how old you are, it’s about where you see yourself and where God is leading you to be, in my testimony I am 19 and I am happily married but it was all because I put my trust in God and allowed him to work in my life, and yes it isn’t easy but true Love always abounds. I hope I could be of some help ♥️

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It may just be he isn’t the one for you and that’s why you feel the way you do. But just because you don’t feel ready know doesn’t mean you won’t be someday.

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Its okay to feel this way... but if you a year in and already  feeling  like he's probably not the one then spending  another year or two probably isn't going to change that.

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Together one year is a very short time before getting engaged or married. It works for people who just know that they’re with the right person but if you aren’t sure, don’t jump into it. 26 and 28 are still really young. I married at 26 and had my son at 34, divorced at 36, got engaged at 37, remarried to new husband at 38, and now I’m pregnant at 40. Women are waiting much longer these days to marry and have children and we can thanks to improvements in the medical field. There’s no reason to rush. He has no biological clock and yours is definitely not nearing the end!

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For me, if I wasn’t ready I wouldn’t ever be. If that’s the question

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I think it could go either way
He's willing to work on his issues
And you're only a year in. At a year, it's okay if you don't know if you do/don't want to marry someone. 
There's no rush here, even for him. 
You never know how you'll feel in one year, or 2.
At this point, I wouldn't make any decisions beyond 'lets see how this goes'. See if things change. See if the issues you guys have improve when he seeks help. See if you feel more one way or the other about marriage. Just see where things go, and at some point you'll naturally have a 'no, I can't marry him' gut feeling, or a 'i would love to marry him' gut feeling

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If you have any doubts at all do not get married. It's okay to feel the way you are feeling.

If I’m not ready now, will I ever be?

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