MIL can’t stand the sight of Me!

I’m posting this so I can release my feelings because I can’t tell my boyfriend how I really feel about this.

Here’s the story 😪

My boyfriend and I started dating a little over 2 years ago. When he first introduced me to his family they loved me. However, my boyfriend always asked me to tread lightly with his family because they were two faced and he didn’t want to see me get hurt. I thought this was weird, but I ignored it because I really enjoyed hanging out with his family.

About a year into the relationship I admit, I started staying over more frequently at his house. I enjoyed going over on weekends to have movie nights with him and when he was working on his car he would tell me to go over so he could work on my car too like do my oil change or wash my car. (We’ll circle back to this topic)

So on one occasion his sister invited the entire family to her boyfriend’s graduation party which was at the boyfriend’s moms house. When I got to the graduation party I hit it off with the graduation boy’s mom. She was a super sweet lady and even complimented my boyfriend by telling him I was a keeper. This comment infuriated my boyfriend’s sister because she had a rocky relationship with her MIL and never received a compliment from her before. After that time the sister couldn’t stand the sight of me. Things got worse when I came by one day to hang out with my BF and I attempted to say hi and she walked right past me like I wasn’t there. My boyfriend saw the whole situation and when I left that day he confronted his sister (Big mistake) and asked her to stop being rude. 😱

After that confrontation my boyfriend and his sister didn’t talk for months. Well turns out this issue started escalating because my bf’s mom thought I was trying to stir drama between her kids. So one day while I was at work I got a text from my BFs younger sister on behalf of the mom letting me know that the mom hated me and that she was tired of me running up her water bill because I was always washing my car there. She even went as far as to tell me that I changed her son for the worst and that she didn’t want me to go around her house anymore because I acted like it was my house. She also asked that I keep my mouth shut and not tell her son. Y’all when I tell you this broke my heart into a million pieces I mean it 💔

If there’s one thing in this world 🌎 that is most important to me without a doubt I’d say it is family 🔒 . Knowing that his mom HATED me really crushed me. I felt embarrassed because I understood where she was coming from. I understood that I may have overstepped some boundaries and that her house really wasn’t my home. So what I did was I sucked up my pride and I drove to her house while my boyfriend was at work so I could apologize to her for making her feel like I disrespected her home. I didn’t get a chance to talk to her because the sister that dislikes me was there so it was very uncomfortable.

After some time both the mom and sister realized that they had a play in the rift between them and my bf. I should have mentioned this before, but my boyfriend is 30 years old and pays half the rent and utilities because his parents are too sick to work. His other siblings pay the other portion of the rent. This the primary reason why my boyfriend was so upset with his family because they blatantly disregarded his feelings and went over his head to tell me off, but never gave him the chance to correct the issues before taking it up with me.

After the mom and sister finally started talking to him again and they also talked to me I thought things were good. I stopped going to their home altogether unless I was invited and if I did go over to hang out with him I would only go during the night so that they wouldn’t have to look at me. Now I’m on the second year and I hate going over. Whether it be someone’s birthday or just a family gathering I don’t like going because I know how they feel about me. I’ve honestly cried and lost sleep about this and I’ve tried to come to terms with it because I know it pains my boyfriend to see that his family doesn’t love me or see my good qualities. I tell him I’m ok with it when in reality it hurts. I just don’t say anything because I know he feels shame and I know that it pains him that his family is so hateful and is not willing to find a resolution.

I’ve tried to make amends, but at this point I just want prayers 💕. Prayers that things will hopefully one day get better so that we can all be united.

Thanks for reading ❤️