Baby daddy/boyfriend problems
My boyfriend is treating me so terribly this pregnancy and I’m only 11w, I’m not sure what to do anymore.. To start of this baby was not planned, however he said he did not want an abortion at all and would step up. So we’ve had to get our shit together. The biggest thing on our list is we need to find a place to move in together. I’ve been doing so much thinking about how to budget and make this all work out as smoothly as possible. He has been really stressed with everything, which is understandable, but taking it all out on me. When I start talking about things we need to do or should do, he just shuts down and says he doesn’t want to talk about it and can’t handle it. I’m not sure how we are supposed to move forward if we can’t talk about anything?😔 He’s making me feel like the worst mother ever and a failure already and I haven’t even had the baby yet. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years and he has never been an angry person like this.. if anything he is the one who always keeps calm and never gets angry about anything. I’ll even just try to talk to him about his feelings, nothing to do with the baby, and he still won’t talk/let me in. We’ve always had great communication so I’m not sure what has changed! How can I try to make him happier or fix whatever is going on when I can’t even have a conversation?💔 I’ve been remaining so calm and not angry because I know he needs peace right now but some things his says are just hurtful, it’s hard to keep it together. I just end up having to go cry quietly to myself somewhere. He just told me today that I’m going to be a terrible mother and get our child taken away** and honestly it was like putting a knife through my heart. I’ve been eating healthier, drinking so much more water, taking my vitamins and attending all doctors appointments 😔 Am I just a fool? Am I being too sensitive about all this because I’m pregnant? Is there anything I can do to try to mend this? Sorry if this was a little sporadic, I’m just lost and need advice..
**He said I was going to be a terrible mother and get our child taken away because I take a prescription medication, Suboxone. It’s an opiate maintenance medication. I know I will probably get a lot of hate or negative comments about this but that is okay, I’m very comfortable with my story and sobriety. Him and I both used to be drug addicts in our teens, we used together actually. I was for 5 years and the past 2 years I have been clean and only taken Suboxone prescribed by a doctor. We have both made great strides in our life since then. I work full time at a hospital and go to college, I’m actually only two semesters away from my Bacheors degree 💔 the only difference between us is I take Suboxone and he does not. He has known the full 2 years that I take this medication obviously. I have explained to him before that if I ever was to get pregnant on this, I would not be able to stop it and go into withdrawal, that it is highly unsafe. As I said, this pregnancy was not planned and I was actually in the process of tapering off to quit when I got pregnant. I always told myself I would never want to have a baby while on this so I could be as healthy as possible, hence why I was quitting so I could be prepared for the future, but now here I am.. I feel terrible enough without his comments so I just don’t even know. The reason doctors say you can’t quit it while pregnant is because withdrawal puts too much stress on the body and it can cause the baby a lot of stress which can lead to problems like low weight, premature delivery, defects and even miscarriage/still birth 😔 so it’s better to have a healthy baby born on Suboxone which may or may not get neonatal abstinence syndrome (40-50% chance) than a dead baby..
I’m sorry this ended up being so long 😥
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