He doesn’t have sex with me anymore

Hi ladies,

I’m looking for a bit of advice please. My man seem to have gone off me in the sex department and I don’t know why or what to do.

We have been together for four and half years and we have two kids. A three and half year old and a one and half year old. We live together but we’re not married.

I am not overweight and in fact I’ve lost all my pregnancy weight so I don’t think it’s my weight. I know I’ve probably let myself go a little bit but it’s hard to maintain certain things while juggling work and being a mother.

We haven’t had sex for nearly 18 months now.

We’ve been arguing a lot and now he wants us to take a break (not a full break up) to reflect and hope that the absence could make the heart grow fonder. I am not sure about that but I will go along with it as it’s not a full break up.

I don’t think he’s running away from his responsibilities with the kids. I think it’s purely a me and him thing. Yes the kids can add extra pressure in the relationship but he provides his fair share. We both work full time and are in demanding jobs.

Is there anything I should be doing at home? Are there things to be mindful of that may be putting him off? All views welcome and I don’t mind straight talkers even if it comes across as rude.

Thank you