Advice on mad bf?

Bf and I got into an argument about him not doing the laundry. This morning I woke up, cooked us breakfast and cleaned the dishes he was supposed to wash. He told me that since I cleaned the dishes he’d do the laundry. It’s Sunday and I work tomorrow so I need to have the laundry done by tonight so that I have clothes to wear tomorrow.

We ended up cuddling and I realized that he hadn’t done the laundry yet and it was getting close to 7:30pm. I told him he should do them and he was falling asleep. He said he’d do them later tonight. Now I don’t really trust him getting it done because I’ve told him to turn off the AC, or put food in the fridge after it’s done cooling or something else and he would forget. I asked him if he could at least sort out the clothes and put the first load in then nap and he threw a fit. I started getting upset so I decided to at least sort them out. He was offended that I started to do them and it made both of start to argue. I called him an asshole and lazy and he told me that if I’m gonna be like that to do it myself.

I told him I was just sorting them out because it’s his chore and that ig I’d trust him to do it. He mumbled a couple of stuff and turned over. It really just hurt me because of our work hours, we only get to see each other for like 30 minutes during the weekdays and I wanted to enjoy our day off together. I started to tear up because I try to keep the house clean and just be a good girlfriend and sometimes I feel unappreciated. He turned off the light and went to sleep. I went to the living room and just started crying. I hated feeling like that so I decided to workout for 45 minutes. Afterwards I took my dog on a walk to clear my mind. I came in and cleaned his paws, fed him, washed the dishes, and then I decided to cook the food he was going to do because I felt like he had a tough week at work and he wanted to rest, but when I asked him what seasonings he used, he ignored me and went to the restroom.

He was in there for a bit but I gave him his space. He then came in and started to sort out the laundry and I asked him if he wanted to talk or if he needed more space (he’s told me in the past that he needs space to cool off), he ignored me again. I told him that it’s rude to just ignore me and that if he needs space to just tell me that. He said he didn’t want to talk to me at all and when I asked why he ignored me once again. I told him that we barely see each other during the week and that I didn’t yell at him or say anything too fucked up so I didn’t understand why he was treating me like I did. He didn’t say anything and I asked him if he really wanted to leave things like this and he said yes and walked out the room. He put the first load in and went to take a shower. He played his music loud and then the speaker died so I plugged in the charger and resumed his music. I feel like I’m always trying with him when we fight/argue but no matter what I do, I feel like it’s never good enough. I give him space, I watch the things I say when we argue, I try to be helpful, but it’s like when he’s mad, I feel like he hates me...and ik when he comes into the bedroom he’s just gonna plug in his headphones and play on his console...

Does anyone have any advice? Our communication is just so different and it’s not like he’s screaming at me or calling me a bitch or hitting me or throwing things, etc. but I wanna be able to work out our problems out like adults...