Herpes or HPV?

*** I know you are not qualified to diagnosis me. Simply sharing my story to get any input as I am quite confused. **** So this is super embarrassing but about 4 months ago I got a lot of little bumps/sores around my asshole. 😭 They were extremely uncomfortable to the point where I couldn’t sleep and walking/wiping was torture. They lasted maybe a week. (( Side Note: I have had the same sexual partner for 3 years. We live together and are together daily. Both tested before we got together. I have had HPV since I was 19-20 and am now 30. )) I made a Gyno appt immediately because I told my mom and showed her pics and she immediately said it looked like herpes. I went to the Gyno maybe a week and a half later and the sores were gone so she couldn’t swab them but offered me a blood test which she said would be accurate since an outbreak had already occurred. I got the blood test and got my results a few days later and it was negative! I was shocked because she told me herpes could lay dormant in my system so the fact that I was having symptoms after being with the same partner for 3 years wasn’t unheard of. Flash forward to a few days ago, a now have a few (no where near as bad as the first time) more painful small bumps down there! Clearly I am going to make another appointment first thing tomorrow but what the hell could this be? Could HPV cause this? I got STD testing done regularly back in my single days and nothing ever showed except HPV. I know my boyfriend has never cheated because we are together daily and he has never had any signs or symptoms. How could I have clear herpes symptoms but a negative blood test?!