Stopped going to appointments?

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I've stopped going to my appointments because they've been to hard for me to get to. My boyfriend is in jail for the time being and I'm taking care of my 2 year old son. I've always been able to take him to prenatal appointments and i still am able to for NST tests. The doctor wants me to go to ultrasounds once a week at the hospital but they don't allow children in the hospital due to hospital policy.  I know they can't change their policy for anyone but i dont have ANYONE to watch my son.  My family lives 1 hour and 45 minutes away from me and just cant afford to come here once a week to help out while i go to doctors appointments. They also work all week and cant afford to miss 1 day a week which i completely understand. I also JUST moved to this area and dont have any friends or people i trust to watch my son during these appointments. The reason they want me to go to an ultrasound is because baby has IUGR and i REALLY wish i could go because every time i go to my OBGYN they pressure me and ask if i have anyone to watch my son because im considered high risk and they say my baby could die. Im 34 weeks tomorrow and every time im able to go to an ultrasound the doctor who is supposed to deliver my baby always says shes growing fine and EVERYTHING looks great. she's just a small baby (6th percentile )My son was "small" too and he came at exactly 40 weeks on his due date and weighed 6 pounds 10oz. The reason i just want to stop going is because I feel like nobody is listening to me and they always say contradicting things. one doctor says shes perfectly healthy just small and another says shes small and could die. Im just confused and stressed out and i have NO HELP at all. i feel like nobody understands what its like to be completely alone in a new place. I do care about my baby but i cant just leave me 2 year old home and tell him i have snacks put out on the stove if he gets hungry lol.

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I would just bring your kid anyways its not like they will turn you away if your kid is there

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Ask them if they can give you a radiology ultrasound form so u can see if you can get an ultrasound done closer to you where you can also take your son with you. Just tell them they are going to have to accomodate your situation or you will have to keep missing appointments, because you have no other options

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How are the cord dopplers? What is your bloodflow to baby? Its super important you get your ultrasounds because not only do they monitor size they monitor the wellbeing of the baby. It will monitor cord flow as well as bloodflow in your baby's brain. They also monitor your fluid levels. IUGR can lead to stillbirth. Which is why its so important.

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Do NOT stop going to your visits. I am in the hospital because of my dopplers and doing daily ultrasounds at this point because it is such a serious issue. In fact, I will be delivering on Friday at 34 weeks because of all this. Do not take this lightly. Your babies health is more important!!

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Its hard. Ny husband works sun up to sun down everyday and I have a 4 year old that I cant find anyone to watch her. My family also lives almost 2 hours away and can't come down to watch her while I go and I havnt lived here for long so I have noone to watch her. Unfortunately I did have to go online and find a baby sitter just so I could make sure baby is fine. But I have missed more than a few appointments where I cant find anyone and I cant take her with me bc of covid protocol. Its been rough.  Unfortunately I have another appointment coming up on Friday and will have to drive her 2 hours at 5 a.m to be back here for my 9a.m appointment bc noone here can watch her for me Friday. Its rough momma. I know money is tight for alot of us but you may want to look into a private clinic they allow underage kids and spouses in the clinics and it was 40$ for a 10 minute wellness scan but it was worth it with my schedule and child.

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My ultrasound place said they dint accept anyone. Went in with my son and they didn’t even ask . Now with covid they are a bit relaxed than way back in March

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Well I completely understand it’s an ongoing struggle trying to find someone to watch the two kids I have already while I make appointments luckily my husband as a switch shift schedule and gets some days off during the week and I just schedule around that but trust me I know its hard when you have no close support system, all my family live an hour away at least and some of them up to 5 hours away. My husbands parents work all week, and they are truly no help (don’t mean that in a bad way) I’m panicking about when I have this baby because I’m scheduled for a c section and when I come home it’ll be just me a 3 kids and fresh c section trying to care for all these kids at the same time lol 😅😭

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Is it possible to move back, closer to family? I don’t live by family either but interviewed a billion people so I have someone who could watch my son so I can go to all my appts (I am also very high risk and go to the hospital every week for scans). Once the baby is here, it will be even tougher.

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I completely understand! I’ve been putting off appointments as well for the same reason! My son is 4 and I have nobody to watch him and with the new policy’s it’s been hard to get to every appointment 😢 I would say invest in a Doppler so you can monitor baby’s heart beat!!

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Wow I’m in the complete same situation as you expect my husband is out of jail now but works 6 days a week. No sitter at all no family around at all I don’t trust no one with my toddler and I’m 30 weeks pregnant going through pretty much the same thing lol my daughters head is measuring 2 and a half weeks behind. And I see a specialist and my reg doctor both say different things, at the end of the day if you can’t make it at all to your appointments just don’t go. UNLESS in your gut you feel like something is wrong your the mom and know what’s best for your baby. I found that lately the appointments themselves stress me out MORE I just don’t even want to go. And taking my son is so hard he doesn’t sit still. Ultrasounds aren’t even 100% accurate, they told me so many things with my first son and none of it even was true I just have smaller heads in my family now they are saying the same thing with this baby it’s exhausting lol Good luck girl I know it’s hard but just go with your gut feeling about your baby and yourself!

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