Vanille Sex

Hello everyone my husband and I are 23 with 2 kids. For a while now I haven't been happy about our sex life and more recently I've been getting irritated, mad more, annoyed, and sexually frustrated. My husband and I have had plenty of talks about or sex life and changing. I like dominant partner/sexual partner. Which my husband and I are both submissive. During out Vanilla sex I have a hard time staying went, faking the sex, faking the moans (which i think he's catching onto), fake wanting it. Like we tired lube, dirty date nights, be dressing everything. I have to be high or have sex chocolates to be horny and want sex. I've been going to the doctors because I think there is something wrong with me or wrong with my vagina. Why can't I get wet or stay wet. But I realized when I watch porn I can get wet.

My husband isn't a dominant person and when he try to be its kinda awkward in a way. We need help, I need help. Please and thank you.