My boyfriend wants me to sleep with someone else so he can watch. I need help!!

So my daughter’s dad and I just got back together after a year of being apart. I have moved back in with him and things have been going pretty well. We used to have a very toxic, emotionally and mentally abusive relationship. I had completely lost myself in the relationship and became severely depressed and just could not be myself. I started hiding everything from him because he was constantly monitoring my finances, whereabouts, and just about everything.

We are going to get into therapy, but my boyfriend has created a stipulation in us being together and him being “okay” again and trusting me. He wants me to sleep with someone random and record it so that he can “know that no matter what, I can be honest with him and he can start building trust in me again”. There have been a few points where I have told him I would do it just to not fight, but then when it comes down to it, I let him know I am not okay with him and that this is not a healthy way for us to build trust. (I slept with one man during our break up and he slept with 7 girls). He has always thought I cheated on him and is very paranoid, so he thinks this will help him not be that way. I don’t get it.

I just am not comfortable. We are in such a good spot and things are finally starting to feel the way they should be again. I don’t want to do this. Everytime I tell him this it causes a fight and he says that I must not care about him being okay and that our relationship is being one-sided. I don’t know what to do! I don’t want to lose him again, but I worry he will never stop asking me to do this and if I do actually do it- I feel like I will hate it. I just want to be with him, but he’s so obsessed with the idea of me being with someone else. He even brings it up when we are having sex.

What should I do? I have never ever imagined I’d be in this situation, but one thing I learned not being with him, is that I NEED to be my own person and follow my gut. Please give me advice 😭