Where do I go from here? Married with one child

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I am currently at a crossroads with my marriage. 
I recently opened my own practice (I am a doctor) and I am trying hard to make enough money so I can have an income and help support my family.  
While you’re n the process of opening my own practice I was able to be a stay-at-home mom for 7+ months which was amazing. But I am afraid my husband got too comfortable with it. 
When I opened my practice my husband immediately started arguing with me about my hours. Right now I am the only doctor at my clinic and my hours are M-Th 9am-6pm and a half day Friday. He is LIVID that I am working until 6pm. What he doesn’t understand is that most of my patients cannot be seen until 5pm or later.  
Well tonight I had two new patients come in at 5pm so I worked until 6:30pm and immediately went home afterwards. I came home to a pissed off husband. He was about to have a mental break down because he was home alone with our two year old from 5pm until 6:45pm AND had to make dinner. He went on yelling about how my job is not conducive to having more kids and that this is it. We will only have one child because of the hours I chose for my clinic. He said it is impossible for him provide dinner every night when he is left alone with the two year old for over an hour, and then want more kids on top of that. 
This is devastating. I want more kids badly. I adore children (hence why I specialize in pediatrics). My husband knows I want more kids badly but is now refusing to have any more because of my hours.  
What should I do? Accept the fact I can’t have more kids?  
I wish it was easy to change my hours but if I want to be a successful practitioner I really need to make my schedule somewhat conducive for my patients. I went into this profession knowing my hours may run late, my husband married me knowing that.. but now that we have one child is he no longer okay with that.

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I’m sorry he’s being irrational. I could maybe understand if you were working all day everyday but you are literally doing a 9-5 type job, and it’s only 5 days a week. Props to you opening your own practice while raising a baby, he needs to be more supportive of you and what you are trying to accomplish. Hopefully he finds a routine that works for him. Maybe he is just overwhelmed right now and just said no more kids out of frustration

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Ew I would not want to be married to someone like that. Instead of being supportive of your career, and taking responsibility for the child he helped make. He acts like caring for his own child is impossible and helping make dinner is beneath him.

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You did not say if he works too. 
It's his child too, so he needs to suck it up and help you raise the baby together. How are you supposed to just handle a baby 24/7 while cook? or is it because you're a woman? But he can't handle less than 2 hours? It's his baby too for crying out loud, that's what parents do multi task with children. He should be supportive of your business, if these are the means to help it grow he needs to handle it. Sit down with him and try to have a talk of what you both need to make your family work. He has to learn to be a FATHER and not just a babysitter

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He’s being selfish as hell ... is the child in daycare during the day ? Maybe a nanny    ??

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That's not even that late...he really can't handle an hour and a half?

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What. The. Fuck. (Excuse my language.) 9-6, 630 even is not, is not a long day. Im sorry he can't handle and doesn't know how to support a successful woman. I read Love Between Equals by Pepper Schwartz a while back and really learned to define the type of relationship I wanted to have. If he were open to reading it I feel like it would be helpful. If it were the other way around I doubt yall would be in this situation... no one bats an eye when a man works till 630, in fact he'd be praised to end his day at that time to come home to his family. My point is, there are a lot of compromise and redefining of roles and expectations to support one another and this book talks about that and why that is and actual methods to achieve that. Best of luck

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Wow poor guy alone with his child until 6:30 and having to make dinner. Ouf! Hard life ! 
He is being extra. Most parents have to take care of their own kids while the other is at work for at least a few hours if not all day ! Sorry I don’t have any advice or solution for you wanted more kids.

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Yikes I’m sorry you have to go through this. Does he work also? You mentioned he’s alone with the for an hour and a half and complaining?!!? Ask him to try all day like you did before working and maybe he will understand.

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My suggestion is to talk to your husband about what his expectations are with you and your job. He obviously is hoping that you would work less hours but then he will also have to understand that you might not make as much in terms of income and are you both ok with it. My uncle started his internal medicine practice from scratch and the first six months, he hardly had any patients so you are fortunate that this is not your case. If you want more kids, are you willing to sacrifice some clinic hours to make that happen? It sounds to me that your husband is panicking that if you have another kid, he might be the primary care taker because you are working a full time job. My friend who is a Pediatrician works full time and her husband stays at home with her two kids but that is a decision they made as a couple and they seem to make it work. Her husband isn’t working at all but just takes care of the kids when she is working. It’s sounds to me that your husband isn’t willing to be a full time stay at home dad. So that also raises the question of child care if you decide to have another kid. Who will provide childcare when you are both working?

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Tell him the McDonald’s drive thru is open 24 hours and to get over himself.

Where do I go from here? Married with one child

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