Christmas Eve

I’m SO sorry this post is all over the place.

My son will be 19 months old in December. My in laws have always had their Christmas with all of their grown children on Christmas eve night, as my MIL works every Christmas night. We went ahead and did this last year, as my son was so little it didn’t really matter and we just let him sleep through it, I opened his gifts for him. We don’t even start opening gifts until 10 or 11 at night, and most of the time don’t leave until 2am, midnight being the earliest we could leave, if we opened presents and then left, which would be pretty crappy IMO. My husband told them tonight that we wanted to do things differently this year, because we wanted to be able to do traditional things with our son, like leaving cookies for Santa, reading the Night Before Christmas before bed, Christmas jammies, the works. They weren’t mad about it, but weren’t too happy either because we can’t do it any other time on Christmas eve or Christmas Day. I feel like we’re essentially taking away their Christmas. What should I do?? I really want my son to experience the magic of Christmas eve like I did, but I don’t want to take away someone else’s Christmas either. And I’m just not about waking him up at 2am to take him home. Plus he wouldn’t even get to open his presents, or I would have to wake him up at 11pm to do it himself.

Help please??