Help settle a debate

So our son is 2 and he just started the hey that’s mine and grabs it phase so he’s done it twice to me today and both times I’ve told him hey that wasn’t nice we need to ask for it nicely then say thank you after so I tell my husband About it and he’s like well did you tell him he was bad and I’m like no he’s not bad he didn’t do anything bad he wasn’t saying something nice and he gets mad at me. I’m not going to call my son bad if he’s not doing anything bad there are other choice of words. 🤷🏻‍♀️ am I wrong for not saying he was bad I’d rather say that wasn’t a nice thing to say then that’s a bad thing to say.