How in the hell am I going to make this work.

I've been with my husband for 10 years. We have a 6 year old daughter. The past 3 years we have fallen out of love. Really, its that he pushed me away because spending time with me and worrying about my feelings were never a priority. It would be as simple as me asking him if I could lay on his lap and he play with my hair while watching tv....and he would always have an excusd....wehave sex (rarely like maybe once a month) to scratch the itch because there is no cheating. We sleep in different parts of the house. We are just plain rude to each other. (Not in front our daughter but I know she senses the tension) I've told him to leave, but he won't because of our daughter. I'm not leaving my house because I pay for the majority plus I have 2 older children from a previous relationship. He has family to go to.

I'm just so fed up with keeping it up. And the fact that I'm miserable.

And no, counseling isn't an option...he refuses to go. We have had countless talks and tears from me with frustration. He dismisses it.