is this childish?

my family is being very emotionally toxic towards me. my mom recently attacked me and i defended myself by pushing her off me and my brother choked me because he thought i was the one hurting her but the whole time i was unprovoked. i’m not a bad person to my family. yes i drink and when i hang with my friends i come home late and i have a boyfriend but thats normal things. this is normal 21 year old life. i’m distant with my family because we both have different mindsets and my family always finds a way to make me feel like i’m too crazy and i’m not going anywhere with my life. i go to school solely for my parents and i’m working and i never ask them for money. but for some reason my mom makes me feel like i’m a devil child. she keeps telling me to move with my dad because she doesnt want me living with her any longer but when i try to move out by myself she guilt trips me into giving her the money i was saving up. i’m 21 right now and i’m really getting sick and tired of all of this. right now my friend and her family agreed that if worse comes to worst i can stay with them and i’m contemplating moving over there until i find my own place. i tried to talk about this with a couple of people and they told me it’s childish but i feel like they only say that because they think how my family treats me is justified but i just want to get an outsiders perspective:/