Seeking validation...

I’m 34 weeks pregnant and at the end of my rope. My BIL came the day before Thanksgiving. He hasn’t left. There’s no real end in sight, other than my husband said he has to be gone when baby arrives.

Then, my FIL and his wife came from the 10th-16th. They are nice enough, but I had to sleep on an air mattress and it was just an overwhelming visit.

It’s been overwhelming. Everything. Trying to feed everyone, keep the house clean, care for a toddler etc.

I was looking forward to Christmas. We’ve had plans with my mom and little brother for two months. They were to come stay Christmas eve, and be here Christmas morning. My mom has been quarantining for a month and even got tested in preparation, she’s super careful. She doesn’t live too far away, so she has been very sad and missing my daughter. She has been looking forward to the holidays with us.

Yesterday, I wake up to my husband telling me his mother is coming for Christmas. She lives in Florida. She has refused to visit us at all in the past year, due to Covid, which is fine, as she is high risk. I feel very irritated.

Aside from her being the typical MIL (critical of everything), her last minute planning has thrown a wrench in a lot of things. My mom has now been demoted to air mattress status. She won’t complain, even though she has a bad back. But it makes me sad. We had fixed the guest room up for her. But my MIL would never sleep on an air mattress. I’ve already planned the meals and done the shopping for this week. Now I have to buy even more food. I feel like she’s only coming to see my BIL. He is her favorite child, and when I said he was clearly staying through Christmas, she seemed upset. I think she wanted him to go to Florida and be with her. I’m not really worried about her taking my mom’s time with our daughter, because I don’t think she’s coming to see us really. She’s a very stressful woman to be around. I absolutely love Christmas, and now it just feels like it will be stressful.

She asked me if it were okay that she come. After she bought the ticket. Said she “didn’t want to put me out.” Well, what was I to say? It’s my MIL, and I can’t turn away family, that’s messed up. Also, I hate to think of anyone being alone on Christmas.

My husband thinks I am just complaining because it’s his family. That’s not the case. I’m just tired of house guests. It’s very overwhelming for me.

Am I being a bitch? I know I can’t stop it from happening at this point.