Any advice on what I should do? So I have been with my bf for a year and a half and I’ve not once ever been able to orgasm with him. We’ve tried everything from oral to regular sex and even using a vibrator and it still just doesn’t happen lol. I can make myself come from a vibrator easily but anytime he tries he goes way too rough and no matter how many times I try and correct what he’s doing. Im also sooo awkward about talking about sex and what he should/shouldn’t do but I do tell him in the moment and like I always move his hands and try and change his speed and stuff. I think he just gets too caught up in the moment and he always goes sooo hard but for me I just need slow and gentle motions to come. For him he needs rough and intense and also I think it may be a lot of mental stuff on my end too..maybe I’m too shy?

But anyway I just miss jerking off by myself lol! I just moved in with him and we both work from home and obviously sleep in the same bed. I used to jerk off at night when I lived alone and now itsobviously so different and I haven’t come in over a year. Do y’all jerk off with your significant other in the house or? I just feel like it’s so weird if I was like “hey I’m gonna go jerk off for a little bit, be back soon” 😂. I also did suggest one time that we just watch each other jerk off? I think that would be hot but tbh my most recent ex thought it was really weird so I just feel really shy about it.

Any suggestions? I know a lot of ladies have difficulties coming especially from sex. Idk if it’s him or if it’s just me being all up in my head!