I want to orgasm

So the only way I get close to an orgasm is if I've been horny and fantasizing all day. It's hard to do that during sex though like I'm focused on how I look or it feels like I'm almost there and it just doesn't happen. My husband has never made me orgasm but I want to sooooo bad like it feels so incredible and I get so close but I never finish it feels like we'd have to have for play for hours and sex for hours but I want to be able to orgasm sooner than that lol. We've tried toys, roleplay, clitoral stimulation, videos, etc. I can't think of something we haven't tried..... I get so close especially lately and it literally impacts my mood when I try so hard but just can't.