My husband left

Me and my husband had a bad fight last night. My 16 has always asked me why his dad doesn't want to spend time with him. It's obvious he wants his fathers attention. My husband doesn't like the person our son is. My husband wanted a strong masculine wrestler like he was in High school. My son is sweet. He likes writing and wants to be an author. He thinks our son isn't a real man because when we are at his girlfriend's parents house he took his girlfriend's plate when she was done. He thinks its a women's job to get plates and he yelled at him in the car about it. My son came to us last night. He was working on trying to write his first book and wanted me to judge the first few chapters. I told him I would after dinner and he asked my husband the same and my husband got mad and took his notebook and yelled at him to "Stop with this bitchy girl shit!" He then started ripping out the pages saying how he didn't raise him this way. I told my son to go his room and I yelled at my husband. He's like "You coddle him too much! That's why he's like this!" I tell him "Our son's a good person! Why isn't that enough for you!" This fucker said he rather have a man than a good person. I start to walk away because my mind is telling me to slap him, but as I'm walking away, I tell him "You can't raise a man if you aren't one! And our son became a hell more of a man than you will ever be!" He called me a fat bitch and left. I haven't heard from him since last night. My son heard everything. He came out the room and just gave me a hug. I love my child. I love who he is and I know he will make a girl way happier in their marriage then mine.