Am I wrong?

My husband and I had an argument. I have high anxiety and the little things set me off and I’m trying to work on it. I came home after work last night and my uncle was over hanging out with my husband having a few drinks. Normally having people over even family makes me panic. But I didn’t last night. After he left I just simply asked my husband if next time he could just send a text letting me know they were over just like a heads up. Not an asking permission text but just a hey so and so is over for a little bit. He flipped and kept saying I was mad because he had people over and went off about other things I worry about with my anxiety when all I said was that one thing. He doesn’t understand my anxiety but idk why me asking him to just give me a heads up set him off. He told me why does it matter? He wouldn’t care if I did the same and I said I get that it’s just me and out of respect id just like a heads up. He made it sound like I was wrong for needing that. Am I overreacting?