I hate my husband - first time mom

I just posted in another group so sorry for the redundancy. I just HATE my husband. I’m caring for our 7 week old and I’m a full time parent 24/7. The only time my husband will do a nighttime feeding is when I crack at 3am. Otherwise, I do it all. I have no idea how the hell I fell into this role. He runs his own business. We just bought a home and he’s playing landlord and is working hard at making it nice for us (buying furniture, hiring contractors, finding tenants for the front house, etc). I get it. He’s working hard but I am too! In fact, I rather have his job. He gets to wind down in the evening. I don’t! I’m losing my mind. I get such little sleep because I’m up every few hours throughout the night and it takes me an hour each time to feed and put baby back to sleep.

My husband tries to support by buying fancy baby gear to make my life easier (the Snoo, a formula maker). He even offered to pay for a nighttime nanny on Saturday to get sleep. All good but it doesn’t negate the fact that he doesn’t help consistently like I think he should. I wish he could do one nightime feeding every night so I get a good stretch or take the baby for a couple hours in the evening so I can wind down. I’m so fed up. When he sees in cracking he’ll feed the baby but that’s like 20 minutes and then guess who gets the baby. And he does this only when he sees me cracking or I’m yelling at 3am that I can’t take it

Is this what stay at home moms and wives do? All the parenting and dad brings home the money? How the f**** did I fall into this role? Sure he doesn’t have 9-5 job and him running a business is demanding but my job is not 9-5 either and it’s just as demanding! I hate him right now.