Would you be ok with your husband spending this much time away from home?

Been married 7 years and we have three kids. Our oldest two are twins and both have special needs. My husband is the bread winner and due to our children’s disabilities I’m a SAHM. My husband spends every single second he has free over at his friends house working on whatever new project he is that month. We don’t have a big enough years for him to store all of his projects apparently. His last project was trucks and now he’s rebuilding a chainsaw. Yesterday we took a trip as a family for the first time and I don’t even know how long ( I always take the kids places on my own) and it was the first day since Christmas Day my kids have spent more than one hour a day with their dad. Our youngest is 16 months old and because of my husbands constant absence she has no attachment to him at all. She’s going through her stranger danger phase right now and won’t let him hold her or anything. That makes me so sad. My oldest two are 4 and are so used to their dad being gone that they don’t ask for him anymore. My husbands new thing is to come home about 10pm every night (on weekends and weekdays after work) and he will go give the kids hugs and when they’re already in bed and wake them up and he justifies it by saying “he never gets to give them love” but like come home before 10pm then dude?! If he wakes the kids up he’ll then go to bed “because he has work tomorrow” and I’ll be left to resettle them down and back to sleep.

Today he left the house at 9am and I just FaceTimed him at 10pm and asked where he was, he said he was still working on cars but one of his friends yelled in the back ground that they are all sitting around a fire and he jumped up and walked over by his tools when I called so I wouldn’t be mad 🙄 This man then had the audacity to tell me to get his dinner ready because he was about to come home and asked me if I had done his laundry and had his lunch ready for work tomorrow!!

This guy isn’t “young and immature” either. He’s 33 years old. I’m ready to leave because I feel like a single mom at this point anyway. He gets mad if I ever tell him he needs to stay home and says I want to keep him a prisoner in our house and want him to have no friends on hobbies. F I ever ask him to stay home and help with housework or anything he’s insufferable and make the experience so terrible that I just tell him to go do whatever he wants so he stops. I know I need to leave. I just need to get my ducks in a row. I’m writing this post to vent more than anything. Any words of wisdom would be appreciated. My family love across the country so it’s not as easy as just hopping in the car and driving to them, especially with covid being such a huge issue in my area 😭