Is it wrong to distance yourself from family, even parents, when they are toxic to you, your spouse, or both? My husband's parents have always been difficult to deal with, we always feel like we have to really think about what will or won't upset them when we make choices (often it doesn't matter, they are upset either way), we never feel like we can trust them, and we are constantly finding out that they along with other members of his family gossip and talk about us behind our back. We've tried talking to them about what makes us unhappy and they refuse to take any accountability or even have a conversation with us about it. In the last 5-6 months we have really stopped all communication with them - my husband texts with his mom or dad every so often - and now they are accusing us of keeping their grandchildren from them and telling the rest of the family that as well. We don't want things to be this way but their behavior was causing so much stress, unhappiness, and turmoil in our lives. We don't really know what to do anymore but the guilt trip is hard. We truly believe we are doing the right thing and hope they can become more reflective but in the mean time, it is just plain sad. Anyone here experience this? We are currently seeking the help of a counselor just to learn how to better navigate this situation together as a united front.