Advice, coming to terms with c section

Did they say you will have to get a c section or are they trying to prepare you for the possibility of a c section? Only asking because I was in the same situation and I was induced at 37+ 5 and had a vaginal delivery. Baby measured big the whole pregnancy and we had to get growth scans throughout the third trimester and my doctor said we would try to do a vaginal delivery but for me to be prepared in case we had to do a c section if needed. I would definitely bring it up at next appointment and stress that you only want a c section if that’s the safest way for baby

Honestly, I wish I had gotten a c-section. I was told I would be fine and long story short- My baby got stuck for two hours and they had me push for over three and a half. I separated, split, and twisted my pelvis. I'm still in a brace every day (though I can finally sleep without it now 🎉) and he's 20 months old. Both of us needed physical therapy for a year after the birth. (I had to be transferred to a different therapist in the middle and when she met me the first time, she physically shuttered at what I went through.) If the doctors are telling you to have a c-section, then get one! Trust me. A bigger baby at birth can cause much more damage than a c-section. 🤷

I may be in the minority but I was ok with my c-section. I intentionally chose my dr based on his c-section reviews. Loved him. He made the tiniest incision and by 9 months postpartum it was barely visibleI recovered well thankfully. No pain the day of c-section. Only needed 600 mg of ibuprofen every 6 hrs after that. Really no pain (2/3 out of 10 usually). I hear some women have a lot of pain so everyone is different. Take all the meds you can! I couldn’t take narcotics bc I’m allergic. Otherwise I would’ve just to be safe.My recovery was good and I was walking the next day. Really not bad at all. Just my experience though. But really not bad!

I completely understand. I had my first drug free and vaginally, and I was honestly excited to have that experience again. But my second had other plans. She was breech. I did all these baby flipping exercises for weeks, went to the chiropractor, and even set up an appointment for an ECV. I really didn’t want the c-section. But at my 36 week appointment I found out she was over 7lbs and her head was in the 99th percentile. Basically, she wasn’t coming out even if we spun her. I cried so much, essentially mourning that I was being robbed of my second natural birth. But the pros outweighed the cons. For one, I didn’t want to be seriously injured during birth. And two, I would rather have a scheduled c-section than an emergency. Once I accepted she was coming out the sun roof, I got myself in a good mental headspace. I was able to coordinate with work exactly when I’d be gone and got all of my work completed. I was able to plan childcare for my toddler and have pet sitters ready. (Just my parents and brother but it counts lol) I did a ton of research on PP recovery (since it was totally different than what I did before) and was able to have everything I needed for when I returned home. I also spoke with a number of women I knew who all had c-sections. They all gave me advice and had good things to say!I was still terrified right up until I laid down on the table. I had shaky legs and everything. But I had an all-women team who were very nice, relaxed and reassuring during the whole process. They asked if I like Christmas music and were jamming lol And since I psyched myself out so bad, it was a breeze. 👍🏻 So fast and easy. We went home two days later, both healthy. I’m not going to lie, recovery is harder. I cried a lot my first week. I’m currently 7 weeks PP. A few positives: less vaginal bleeding, my vagina doesn’t feel destroyed like the first time, and I didn’t have to do anything around the house for a few more weeks. 😂 I know reading everyone’s responses only helps so much (I hated everyone telling me it would be ok, I was still so angry) but honestly it will be ok. My baby was over 8lbs and my doctor said there was no way she would’ve come out the normal way. This is safer for you and your baby. Deep breaths! I’m sending you lots of virtual hugs and all the good vibes. ❤️❤️❤️

You are allowed to refuse. Tell them no. I don’t understand why doctors even do this. Your ultrasound can be off. 9 times out of 10 your body will not grow a baby it can’t birth. Even if your baby is big you can birth them vaginally. I’m not saying some women don’t absolutely have to have csections but I wouldn’t get one based off an ultrasound unless you want it. Don’t be forced into something by a medical professional if you don’t want it.

Our baby was impossible to measure as he was in a bad position for the ultrasounds.. He ended up being 8,5lbs i was in labor for over 2 days until they realized he was not going to pass vaginally.. So after 50 hrs of contractions and epidural and induction and breaking water...I ended up having a c-section by a doctor I had met maybe 30 minutes in advance and it was not done well it is still bothering me 6 months later, while I feel like it should be a lot easier by now. (making a wrong. Move still makes me feel like I'm ripping on one side.. My midwife also said afterwards that it wasn't closed up very good) So.. If I had known in advance.. I rather had done a planned c-section with a doctor of my choice.

If you don't want one then do not let your doctor force you. I was told the same thing during my first pregnancy and was scheduled for an induction at 38 weeks. My water broke naturally about 4 days prior to the induction date. My son was 10lbs and 21 inches long and I birthed him vaginally with no issues other than a tear. It is very possible to vaginally birth a larger baby, it frustrates me when doctors act like its not possible. Feel impowered and stand your ground. Of course unless there is a larger medical issue at hand.