I am happily married, 5 years this year, and 2 months after we got pregnant with our first daughter, my younger sister got pregnant, by a guy she had only known for a few weeks, who had a pregnant girlfriend at home. I was very upset after learning she was also pregnant while I was and due 2 months later. This was not something our family was particularly excited about since she was barely able to take care of herself living in San Diego alone. She is not a very responsible person and makes dumb choices often leading to my parents having to help her out. I felt so many feelings at that time because it went from my family being excited about us having a baby to anytime we’d talk about my baby coming, we’d talk about her and everyone get annoyed again because it was not a good situation. She flew east after the baby was born and lived with my parents during her maternity leave with the baby. As soon as she got there my 3 month old daughter all of a sudden became “a big girl” and my nephew was “the baby”. My mom was always so busy holding my nephew and helping my sister that she didn’t have a lot of time to just enjoy my daughter. This was temporary as my sister flew home to San Diego by the end of the summer but it hurt my feelings. She moved in with the father of the baby because she literally would have been homeless if she didn’t. She kept telling us she is not interested in a relationship with him but he is supporting them financially so that’s what she has to do. Fall of 2019 she tells us that she is pregnant again. Same dad. This time though the baby has Cystic Fibrosis as they found out they are both carriers. Baby comes 2 months early and my parents flew out to see them right after the baby was born. So now this is 2 kids (3 for him).

Early fall of 2020 we decide to try for a second baby and got pregnant right away in October. I am due July 2nd. Well my mom tells me yesterday that this same sister is pregnant yet again. Doctors told them it would be best if they did not have more since they are both CF carriers. Plus she struggles to take care of the first 2, now 3? Oh and her due date is 2 WEEKS after mine this time.

I am just annoyed all over again that both times I’ve been pregnant, she gets pregnant too. I know it sounds petty and selfish but in a family where everyone else requires so much attention while I’m over here just minding my business, boring and plain, I was looking forward to being the special one for once. My parents will fly out to see the baby after it’s born again, which will be right after mine is born. Once again my baby will be “THE baby” for all of 2 weeks, maybe, before she becomes “a big girl”.

It’s just so frustrating being responsible adults and making sure we are ready for another baby and can take care of our kids, and she just get knocked up by a guy without thinking of the consequences.