About a year ago I posted about my struggles with my narcissistic mom, I used to try so hard to have the positive and loving mother-daughter relationship I've seen throughout my life but as soon as I took PSY 201 and learned about a narcissist everything made sense.

As I did more reading my heart broke... I'll never have that 😥 I was depressed for a little while until one day I decided not be anymore. No I can't have the mom I always wanted but I can give my own girls the mom they deserve. Ever since then I've really bonded with my two daughters especially my oldest. I don't say this to say I've been a shit mom now I actively seek out activities for us to do more often, we spend more time together, I talk to her, educate her and most importantly I uplift her. I did it before but I'm heavy on it now I might need to slow down because she's getting a big head lbs!

I haven't spoken to my mom since November she's been taking jabs at me through group chat, my grandma created it for my mom and all of her granddaughters, but I read no matter what... STARVE THE NARCISSIST! It's the only way to have peace. Plus I know my mom she's trying to set me off so I'll go crazy and she turns into a victim.

My problem is... I really like this. I feel like I'm becoming cold blooded for instance my mom had a big fight with her bf he didn't hurt her but he did mess up her car pretty bad. She had no one else and even tho I'm an hour away I said hell naw. She actually needed my husband's help he's a jack of all trades whatever you need he can do it but before word even got to him I stepped in. You will not talk shit about my husband and then call him for help. It don't work like that!

My sister feels like that was mean we had a conversation she was shocked by my responses on hypothetical questions on our mom. She feels like I'm losing my humanity a little bit when I just want nothing to do with my mom, not in life or death. I'm too busy bonding with my own daughters. Is it really that simple or am I really being cold hearted???

Any similar experiences???