If you gained weight and were 5’6 and 265lbs would you still be upset with you boyfriend for never wanting sex for over a year and turning to porn or would you forgive him since you weighed so much?

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Im literally 280 lbs and my man eats my ass like groceries. I wouldnt be with someone who didnt understand that bodies change and weight fluctuates.

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I think its a conversation. If im honest we need to understand men are visual and are attracted to what they like. And both of you need to be honest in the relationship and compromise. 265 at your height is obese. Were u always this weight or did u gain significant amounts. I just think this deserves more context. I wont officially demonize your bf without understanding both sides. 265 is obese at your height and it affects your health and probably your self esteem too which might interfere with your partner as well.
     Its similar to how women desire a working man. If he doesnt work and lounges it may change a few things in relationship.

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No id completely understand. 
If I gradually became obese I wouldn’t expect my partner to be sexually attracted to me, health and physical attraction is important to both of us. 
Men shouldn’t be required to just overlook everything. Same applies to women. If my partner became overweight I wouldn’t be having sex with him, I’d be motivating him to lose the weight. It’s unhealthy which is a turn off. 
If it was due to medical reasons, I’d have more sympathy and be more understanding, but it would still turn me off.

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I’m 5’7 at 250 and my guy turns me out every night. I gained about 30 pounds since we got together, weight hasn’t stopped him.

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Is he saying that your weight is an issue or are you assuming that’s the issue?

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I wouldn't put myself down like that, there's nothing wrong with weighing more

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Excuse me!!!
Your man turns to porn... why? Just because you gained extra love-handles for him to handle??
Gal, get your sexy self outta that place! If he's no longer attracted to you, let's get a real man that can handle love-handles!!
🙌🙌🙌

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I mean I would have a conversation with my partner about it. I would personally understand because sexual desire can definitely depend on physical attractiveness and in my eyes health, but that is a completely personal thing and everyone deserves love, compassion, and great sex! Definitely talk to your husband about how you feel and maybe a plan for both of you to loose some weight ( if you so choose)

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My feelings would be hurt but I wouldn't find myself attractive so I'd understand if he didn't either porn in much better than cheating

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I’d be upset but it would be about more than just weight. With weight gain goes with body image issues and lack of confidence. Talk to him about it, don’t make it about weight, make it about lack of intimacy and connection.

If you gained weight and were 5’6 and 265lbs would you still be upset with you boyfriend for never wanting sex for over a year and turning to porn or would you forgive him since you weighed so much?

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