Okay, so I don’t know who to turn to for this so I figured let me ask here. I just found out I’m pregnant. So far, only my husband and I know. My dads birthday is tomorrow and we are doing a family dinner on Saturday to celebrate. My thought was to get him a “grandpa” gift to let him and my family know the big news.

My sister and I are very close and she was diagnosed with breast cancer 4 years ago (3 years cancer free). Her doctor is having her hold off on having kids due to the meds and ideally wants her to have 5 years under her belt before trying. This has been devastating for her (and her husband). I know when people tell her they are pregnant (like her best friend and SIL), it makes her sad because it’s not her and she can’t have that moment yet. I am newly married (October 2020) and my husband and I have been trying since we got married. I have told my sister in the past that this was our plan. I just love my sister so much and don’t want her to be sad. Does anyone have advice or thoughts on whether I should tell her before Saturday? If so, how do I say it? Or do I have her be included with everyone else so she doesn’t feel different? I’m not sure which would be best and her feelings are weighing heavily on my mind and heart.