Advice for dealing with gender disappointment?

Question

Please no judgement, but I’d love some advice if anyone has been through this! 
We have a two year old daughter and are pregnant with our second. We just found out it’s a boy and we’re trying to get excited but we’re honestly crushed. Both my husband and I dreamed of having two girls for soooo many reasons:
- the idea of sisters (I’m so close with mine!)
- reusing all of our 1st’s clothes 
- the adorable sister matching outfits and soooo many more options for cute clothes 😍
- we have four girl names we both love and zero boys names (our three fav boys names have been recently taken by friends and fam)
- we want our kids to share a room and have heard it’s easier to do that for an extended period of time if both are same gender 
- this age gap is larger than we planned for and since girls tend to walk/talk sooner we thought it would feel smaller with two girls 
- we know how to take care of a girl/don’t want to get peed on all the time 😬
Has anyone been through this specifically wanting a girl for sooooo many reasons, had a baby boy and been just as happy? How did you get over the gender disappointment? Any words of advice or support would be much appreciated! And OF COURSE the most important thing is a healthy happy baby, I totally get that :)

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With my first literally everyone was sure I was having a girl. My grandma died when I was 10 weeks pregnant and we were going to name her after my grandma. My hand had a dream about our daughter. My FIL even called the baby by that name. Then we got the test results back: boy. We did want at least one of each, but I'd always dreamed of my first born being a girl. I was sad about it for a little bit, but I forced myself to change my mindset. We were happy the baby was healthy. I started looking at little boy things. It helped my husband's best friend was also having a boy, and his wife showed me a lot of what they had for their son. I still wanted a boy, but I got excited about being a boy mom. They say boys are closer to their moms and he definitely has a preference for me.
Our second baby was a girl, and they share a room. She also wore a lot of his hand me downs. And she's peed on me way more times than my son did as an infant(now we're potty training so it's a different story).
Both of my parents only have opposite gender siblings and honestly my dad and his younger sister are closer than his 2 sisters are. My mom and her brother are close, too, even with a 4 year age gap.

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When I was pregnant with my first I wanted a girl soooo badly , but honestly I'm super blessed and really happy it was a boy 💙 I love him sooo much 🥺 and he's 1. I'm pregnant with my second due in 3 days with a girl I think it's nice to have one of each gender

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I’m also pregnant with my second and I was really hoping for a girl but now i’m going to have two boys! it’s completely valid to be disappointed and doesn’t mean that you’ll not love your baby or anything like that! Get through this mama and when he’s born you’ll fall in love! Boys are so much fun 💙

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I understand how you’re feeling! With my first I was convinced it was a girl and I envisioned having a daughter. Then we found out it was a boy! I wasn’t feeling the disappointment you are rn, but I did have to adjust to the idea. I understand you wanting them to be close. I have two younger sisters and I love my sister bond, but your babies will still love and play with each other. Your first is going to be such a good big sister to her little brother. You can still do ADORABLE outfits with a boy and a girl. You might need to get a few things that you don’t have right now, and they can definitely share a room for a few years if that’s what you want to do. But let me say, my son is such a gift. Of course all you hope for is a healthy baby, but boys are so sweet. My son gives the best kisses and cuddles and is such a love. Any child is a blessing, but you are going to love your mama’s little boy. I never knew how amazing it would be to have a son. He is wild and crazy and so helpful and sweet. I will agree, boy names are HARD. I’ve had more than one friend say they’d rather name a girl again over picking out a boy name. We are struggling right now with a name for boy #2. My son’s name is Emmett, and I haven’t found anything yet that we love and are ready to settle on. Thankfully we still have some time before May. Congrats mama! 💙🤍💖 you will figure it all out.

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Just wanted to say that your feelings are TOTALLY VALID and I can empathize. I really wanted a girl second and was so sad to learn it was a boy. I’ve heard it gets better once he’s born but I’m sending hugs now!

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Yeah my first was a girl and I cried so hard when I found out my second was a boy. I wanted another girl for so many reasons. It took a few weeks to be over the super upset stage and now he is a mummies boy and I couldn't imagine my life without a son. They are turning 5 and 4 in a few days, but 100% Was where you were... the feeling will pass and you will love him as much as your daughter but it does hurt the first moments you find out. No judgment from me as I was there and it's ok to feel upset initially

Advice for dealing with gender disappointment?

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