Screw them

I mean this is basically the arrangement my husband and I have. Did you have a discussion about who would be providing financially and who would be caring for the children before you had kids? My husband chooses to be an active part in our children’s lives, he helps with bath time, homework, taking them to the park, etc... BUT if he has an insanely busy work week it’s clear to us both that it’s my responsibility to make sure the children’s needs are met. Just as he makes sure our financial needs are met. When our new baby is born it’ll be my responsibility to wake up for feedings because he’s going to work in the morning. SAHMs are seriously hardworking, it’s a difficult (often thankless) job... but it’s what I signed up for so 🤷‍♀️.

SAHM are champs. I am not a mother yet, and I won’t be a SAHM. I do have a lot of respect for women who do stay home, it’s hard.

I am a SAHM and have been basically since summer. I worked prior while my oldest went to a sitter. Then when my youngest was born and Covid hit we went decided I would no longer work. It is draining. At least working I had social interactions and got out. Now I don’t see many people (thanks Covid!) or go many places (again cheers to you Covid). I am trying to juggle house, baby, virtual school, meals. And I have a husband that helps when he is home, but he works 6 days a week and gets home between 5 and 5:30. So it is a long day of me and the kids. Don’t get me wrong, I love being able to be home with them, but it is not what I pictured it to be since we are stuck home all the time.