I’ve been with my bf for over 4 years and known each other for 6. I feel like that is plenty of time to decide if I’m the person you’d like to be with long term.

We are almost 3 years out of college . Have lived together for 3 years. We even adopted pets together.

I feel like we are both settling into our careers, we paid off all of our debt. We are doing well for ourselves. I thought that the next step would be engagement/marriage. We’ve talked about it several times saying that we’re excited for a future together.

I thought we had naturally come to a point where it made since. He seems to think we’re not there yet. He says he wants marriage just not yet. As we approach 5 years together people always ask why we haven’t taken that next step and I’m out of excuses why it hasn’t happened.

We’ve gone to countless weddings and baby showers of couples that have been together way shorter than us.

I also know he doesn’t have anything in the works to propose bc we’ve talked about how we’d look at rings together before engagement bc I don’t know what I like or even my ring size.

The other day we were walking past a jewelry store and kinda hinted that maybe we should pick a store to stop in to look sometime and he quickly said no not yet.

I know everyone has different timelines... i just don’t want to waste my time if he’s someone that doesn’t want to marry me.

What do you do if you and your SO are on different timelines?