Do I have a right to be annoyed?

Question

I’m in high school and so is my boyfriend. We’re both Juniors. 
My boyfriend usually stays up until midnight- 2am even on school nights, playing video games. Then his grades suffer because he’s too tired or doesn’t want to do his homework. 
We usually meet before school in the parking lot and then walk in together. Because of COVID, people either have the option to be online or in person. Today he’s online, because he slept in and woke up at 8:10 even though school starts at 8. So he’s definitely late to come into school, but he’s also late for the class Zoom meeting. I’m honestly so annoyed because all he has to do is wake up at 7:30 to get to school on time. Maybe I’m overreacting and trying to control him without meaning to. This has happened before too, so it’s not the first time. 
I am also the type of person that has all A’s, and I force myself to go to sleep at a reasonable time (10-11 pm) on school nights. I also make myself do my homework because I know that it will affect my future. I am planning on going to college and he is planning on going into a trade (probably HVAC) 
Should I talk to him about it and explain how it bother me, or no? 
Answer in the poll please: Do you think I have a right to be mad or annoyed? 
Thank you, and any advice is appreciated. Sorry for the long post

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No you don't have a right to be mad or annoyed. His grades suffering has absolutely no effect on you.

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It's frustrating, bit he's his own person who has to make his own decisions ultimately. If you've already spoken to him about it then I'd just leave him to it, no amount of pushing is going to make him change his ways unless he wants to.

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Sounds like your aspirations and his don't line up. If he is like this now and it bothers you it won't change. I think it sounds like you need to not be with him. Maybe be on your own and focus on your studies and you will find someone of your same standards.

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What you are describing having issue with is really none of your business. 
If you dont like it then end the relationship and find someone better suited to you.

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So you're upset that his priorities and standards are the same as yours? He's his own person. You can't be upset with that

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You can feel however you want, it's nobody's place to tell someone else how they should feel in any given situation. I think what you need to do is  reflect on whether you're upset that he's not living up to YOUR standard of motivation and school being a priority, or if you're upset that your partner isn't living up to THEIR potential/portraying traits that you want in a partner. 
It's his and his parents responsibilities to manage his habits and school success, not yours. 
Dating is about observing your partners behaviors and deciding if you're compatible. If this isn't something you like or want in a partner then maybe it's time to think about breaking up. Having hobbies, playing games, alcohol/caffeine/drugs are okay as long as they're not interfering with normal day to day responsibilities. Its not your job to fix or change him, just decide what you want or what you'll put up with and then act on it.

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I’d be annoyed if that was my boyfriend. I also think it shows signs of his lack of motivation, and I’d think hard if I wanted to stay in a relationship with someone who’s values don’t align with my own.
By overall you aren’t his mom so don’t treat him like you are. If you don’t like his lazy behavior then leave.

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You can speak your peace to him on his behavior but ultimately it’s up to him to get his shit together. If it affects your relationship yes you have a say in the matter, but don’t let his failure ruin your success. 
From my experience I had a bf that was like that too, had no desire to do well in school or work and let things slip, and it really bothered me, because I was the opposite. I saw my SO failing, when you know he has potential, so yeah I know the frustration. But... it ain’t your fight 🤷🏼‍♀️ I told him many times eh at he could do to fix and that I would help him, but it didn’t matter. He started relying on me for success in the relationship, for me to carry it and him to slack off. So yes, it then became my problem because it directly effected me and the relationship I chose to be in. So I broke up with him. There was no other way. He would have dragged me down with him. 
You can support him and help motivate him but don’t let it consume you. He needs to put in the work, not you. If he fails, that’s on him.

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I'm going to say no you don't have a right to be mad but I do see and understand how you feel. School is important but it can be hard for someone to stay motivated. I hated school and barely tried. Now that I'm 30 and have been in college part time for three years I have maintained straight A's that never would have been possible years ago. While academics are important they are not everything. As my fiance always says even C students get degrees and diplomas. I applaud your hard work and dedication. I too work my ass off for my good grades. But you have to accept that maybe this is not his path like it is yours. And if academics are a deal breaker which is totally fine but you may need to find someone else who values school and good grades like you. But first things first you should talk to him about it. Maybe there is another reason why he can't be or stay motivated

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I actually think it’s very mature of you to worry about his work ethic at that age. Because the fact is is if he’s like that now about grades, he may be like that about college and his future career - not a good thing. Work ethic is important! I think you’re justified!

Do I have a right to be annoyed?

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