Feeling hurt 🥺 husband selfish thought process

I'm sick today, accidentally ingested gluten and I'm gluten intolerant, and it just really highlights the fact that my husband never wants to do anything for me.

I'm pretty independent most of the time, but I still need to feel loved.

I let him know I was still sick and even though I wanted to help with the dishes I didn't feel up to it. He said, "So you're telling me I have to do this by myself?" His whole language and interactions with me mostly revolve around me being an inconvenience to him. If I ask him to scratch my back or take my plate to the sink he rolls his eyes and sighs. He'll do it but begrudgingly.

I was talking to him about how when I get up and take the dishes (we snack after our son goes to bed in front of the tv) he doesn't have to ask, and I don't make a big deal out of it. But he does. And he said, "It's because I feel like you're taking advantage of me.". After that I got tears in my eyes and left the room, it felt really hurtful and I think I finally understood how he feels about serving me.

I really don't understand the dynamic in our relationship right now and how he came to have this thought process. He's looking at things very selfishly and even though I'm a caring wife who cooks and serves his food, cleans our house and takes care of our child also while working from home myself, it doesn't even matter. I don't even know how to break the cycle. It's the same if I make a mistake, an honest mistake, like even if I'm crying and sweating because I made a mistake it's all about how I've done it to him and how he's annoyed.

I really really wish someone would take care of me for a change.