My bf left me at the beach...
FYI- my bf & I have been together going on 7 years.
We were at the Beach with my bf’s brother & gf, and we all went out for drinks at a bar.
However this bar turned into a club at 11pm.
By the time it turned into a bar, the brother’s gf & I had taken 4 SHOTS back to back!!! So we were NOT ready to leave any time soon.
Next thing you know, the gf & I were out there dancing (only with EACHOTHER, no dudes) & having a great time!!!
Meanwhile, I notice my bf is on his phone and seeming to ignore everything... bars & clubs aren’t his thing/scene.
When we all get back to the hotel, I notice that he isn’t looking at me & talking to me. Instead, I realize that he is packing his bags!
So I ask him... Are you leaving??!
He said... no.
So I left it alone & assumed that he must be so mad that he’s already packing to leave in the morning (WE DROVE TOGETHER- in 1 car... MY CAR).
So I hop in the shower.
When I get out, I realize that everything of his is gone. His bags, shoes, clothes, phone, wallet, etc.
But where could he have gone?? He didn’t bring a car?! I searched for my keys- & realized that HE TOOK THEM!!!
So I assume he’s so mad that he is going to sleep in his car. I put on my shoes & head outside to the parking lot to find him. After almost an hr of walking alone, in the dark... I realize that my car is not there &, obviously, he is not there either.
So I start calling him... No answer.
I call, call, call.
Then I remember, WE BOTH HAVE iPhones!!! I can use the FindMyFriends to see where he is!!! HE AIRPLANE MODED ME!!!
So I go back to my room with hopes that he just went for a drive.
Hours pass & he is still nowhere to be found. After about 3 hours, his airplane mode is off & my texts are finally beginning to go through.
I call him. We talk for a while... & he says: I’m not breaking up with you... I needed to do this to NOT do something I would regret (like breaking up)... I just needed my space.
So what do y’all think?! Drive 3.5 HOURS away to need SPACE??! Take ALL YOUR BELONGINGS & leave... just to need SPACE?!
He says that HE is the victim here. That Here I was drinking, dancing, “shaking my butt” (I was kinda twerking with some other girls) and disrespecting our relationship... that he was SHAKING & SHOCKED.
But he left me-
I don’t care WHAT he might have done, I would have NEVER left him 3.5 HOURS behind (at the beach) just for some SPACE! NOT TO MENTION- EVERRRR——— TAKE HIS CAR!!!
Idk... help please.
I love him. But I don’t see how you could love someone & do this.
Is this needed space? Do I respect that?
Or was that a breakup? Make it happen.
Thnx
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