Do you have a preference?

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I decided to make this post anonymously because I've read online that I'm not the only one with a preference. I am genuinly curious if there are other women on this app with similar opinions. I am not ttc at the moment, unfortunatelly me and my husband are still financially struggling to start a family.
My personal preference is girls. I am ashamed to say that I will be heartbroken (initially) if I ever have a boy instead. For the longest time it's been something I am ashamed to admit to anyone even myself. Of course if I ever do have a boy I'll love him just as much. But girls... I just want to have an all girl family. I get so jealous over couples who have multiple girls like it's the greatest thing in the world. I thought if I gave it time I would forget about this preference. But I am still struggling of accepting the idea of having a boy. From a baby to a toddler to a teenager and young adult, nothing excites me about having a boy. From toy cars and soldiers to hobbies to clothing and room decor to having a girlfriend and playing spots and friends. It's just not something I want! Great if you do, I just don't. And girls... from barbie dolls to hair and makeup to periods to girlfriends and dresses to boyfriend drama, to struggles and birth control. I want to be the worlds most understanding and supportive mom. Girls - it's the greatest thing in the world. So, can anyone relate?
Please don't judge me. I completely understand and feel for those who struggle with conception, have been ttc for a while or aren't able to have a family of their own. But this post is not about that, so please don't leave any negative comments. I wish you all the best ❤

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I had a preference when I was pregnant with my first. I wanted a boy, but ended up having a girl. Once I found out, any preference went out the window. I’m now the mom of two girls. Let me tell you this, do not put expectations on your kids as to what hobbies and clothing they will like. They will resent you for it. Don’t be that kind of parent who forces their crying daughter into a dress. Don’t be that mom who forces her daughter into ballet instead of soccer or basketball. Let your kids be who they are, regardless of what’s between their legs. When it comes down to it, you could have a girl who wants to wear baseball caps and sports jerseys and likes to ride dirt bikes with no interest in dress shopping or whatever it is you want.

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I think I’d be upset if I don’t have at least one girl. I think it’s normal to want a child you can relate to in that way. However, having a girl doesn’t guarantee she’ll be into barbies and boys and all that. Just like having a boy doesn’t mean he’ll be into trucks and cars and girls. So I think before you start TTC, you should get used to the idea that a boy can have many different interests and so can girls. Try not to define them so much by their sex. 
Also when my nephew was born, it helped me a lot in seeing that little boys are just as adorable and fun. He was the sweetest baby one could ever want!

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I think preferences are fine and normal, as long as your not treating your children any differently once they come. But I don’t think you can have expectations of what they will like just based off gender. Not all boys like cars and soldiers and have girlfriends and play sports. Not all girls like makeup, dolls, dresses, have boy problems and want to come to their mothers about their issues. They’re their own little people. One of my best friends mom had those expectations for a girl after having 3 boys and has always tried forcing them on her and acted disappointed because she never liked them and is she more masculine/dresses masculine and likes women.

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I'd prefer a boy. My family is quite literally overrun with girls.

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Yes and no. I had no preference with my first. I was excited at the thought of a girl or boy. I had a boy. In a way still feel the same, but I also work with people who have girls and most that are preteens and they just say how terrible it is right now just all the drama their going though. So now I kind of just want another boy lol. But really whenever that time comes I won’t care. I’ll still be just as happy if I have a girl.

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I accidentally clicked boys but I have zero preference

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When I was pregnant I really wanted a girl and was a little disappointed when I found out I was having a boy. Now that he is getting older (6 now) I can really understand that it doesn’t matter about the gender at all for how they will react or do stuff. He loves boy stuff like cars and nerf stuff, but he also enjoys other things like sitting and me reading to him and playing with dolls. He likes getting his nails painted and has pink headphones he wears at school. His dad doesn’t think he should girl stuff, but I decided a long time ago that when I became a mom I would support my kids no matter what. If getting his nails painted makes my son happy then I will support him and the same goes if he thinks having a new hot wheel car will do the same thing. ❤️

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I am praying for this baby to be a girl! I have a boy and I ADORE him. So I want a girl. But my boy is so perfect I honestly couldn’t imagine having only girls LOL.

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I have one of each and supposedly pregnant with another girl. I wanted two boys. Oh well.

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I have one son and we will be trying again for another baby within the next few months... I’d honestly probably choose to have another boy if I could choose because we already have all the clothes for a boy and it would just be more convenient at that point, but I’d be happy either way. 
Just from having so many siblings and nannying so many kiddos, I was so happy to find out I was having a boy with my first... I just prefer the dynamic of boys personally

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