On a verge ..

So it all started pretty much about a year ago in May when my husband son Eric came to live with us. He told us that him and his brother got into a fight over weed and that his mother didn’t care for him. When Eric got here I had questions about like his school work and if he’s getting it done or if he hasn’t gotten it done or whatever the case may be but I did ask my husband like he finds out about Eric school. And my husband found out that Eric was in remote learning because of Covid. So I told him to get all the login information and when I looked on his classroom, it showed that he had 278 assignments to do. So basically he didn’t do any assignments for the whole school year and he was going to fail. So my husband asked me if I could help him do some of the assignments and that Eric will also do some of the assignments and we will do that. So for exactly 2 hrs I helped Eric one day with some of his math assignment. he only did like two of them and the rest of them ended up being my responsibility I did 273 assignments if not more and that was completely unfair to me because I had my son who wasn’t even one to take care of plus the business we run and the house under construction AND being pregnant too. Now, I actually did his assignments all of them. And he was able to move onto senior year. For the first half of senior year the first two marking. I was doing all of his homework assignments. Throughout my pregnancy with Mia, Eric used to poke my arm casually. I never thought much of it until that morning that I open my phone and saw that he subscribe to naughty wives porn on Reddit. Then I brought it to the attention to my husband and I told him that this is the kind of porn that your son is watching and it makes me feel extremely uncomfortable. are used to walk around with a T-shirt without a bra under and now I felt that I could not do that. I used to walk around with shorts, and after I saw that I felt like I could not do that anymore. This is all because Eric is watching porn that relates to our family situation. It was at that point that I realized Eric is not a baby. Eric is not a little 13-year-old boy that can’t do for himself. Eric is a grown man and does grown man stuff. My husband spoke to Eric about poking me and then about biting me but Eric did not listen then I told Eric and a firm way, stop poking me, stop biting me, stop laying on me, stop touching me. He felt offended and I did not care. Because I already felt uncomfortable in my home. Now at this point there’s tension built. My husband says that we will move Eric to the basement and when he graduates we will ship him off to the military. However to get into the military you have to take an entrance exam. Eric does not know the basics to humanity because I’ve been doing his homework for the past year and a half. Moving Eric to the basement will not solve my problems. Everything is still upstairs. He will still come upstairs to do whatever it is he finds the need to do. So still I will be uncomfortable. After that Eric decided to bring weed into our house. He knows that weed is not tolerable in our home. At this point Eric was not doing homework, he was not attending class and all of his teachers were calling my husbands phone. This frustrated my husband and he took it out on me because I am the one who speaks to my husband every few hours of the day regarding business stuff. We decided it’s time we confiscated all of his stuff. We did, and he still wouldn’t attend class or do the work he would rather sleep. Eric does not do anything in the house. He does not clean up after himself, he does not help do anything, he barely ever wants to shower which to me is just disgusting. He just wants to sleep all day and be on his phone playing games. He has no interest in going to trade school because he says they are going to make him read books. He has no interest in getting his license. Eric has no future. He is the only reason why me and my husband have been arguing over a year now. My life has turned upside down since this grown ass man has came here. During the time that Eric is living here, we have still been paying child support for him to his mother where he should have been. When we got married, just three days before ceremony, she went and filed for more money from my husband trifling that her expenses has gone up. mind you Eric was selling weed so he was making his own money and Joshua (the other twin) was working at the CVS down the block from their home. That aside, when I stopped doing homework for Eric, and I laid down rules and boundaries, all of a sudden I became the worst wife in the world. Despite how much good I do I’m still the bad one. All the sacrifices I make I’m still the bad one. My husband told me 2 1/2 weeks ago that I am the reason why he has given up on life yesterday he told me that I am the reason why he is a nobody. How is this true I do not know. On Thursday there was a huge argument with Eric and me and his father. We argued because Eric refused to give me his father’s phone so that I could log into class when my phone was in use for GPS. He called me a bitch several times and I felt highly disrespected. My husband later that day told me that he doesn’t care if Eric leaves that he won’t let any kid get in between me and him but that’s exactly what he’s doing. The magistrate ruled in the favor of his ex wife and is obligated to pay her more child support along with insuring him for health insurance. On Friday we received a call from Eric’s mother stating that Eric needs health insurance and the cost for her is $43 and some change, and for us to get him insurance by himself it’s $268. She asked if we wanted her to continue ensuring him or if we would do it ourselves. My husband told her to continue to insure him however, Eric had bigger problems than just health insurance. He told her that ever does not wanna go to school Eric does not want to do his assignments Eric is not helping in the house Eric is not cleaning up after himself and she started to laugh and she said that she’s been dealing with that since the seventh grade with Eric. Eric started smoking and selling weed in the seventh grade. It was when he started falling behind in school that she had him evaluated and found out that he had ADHD and that his brain is developing three years behind. All of this information she failed to tell my husband before. But that does not excuse his laziness, hygiene or the disrespect he shows. My husband asked his ex-wife that if Eric decides to move back home if she would take him and she said yes her doors are always open to him. They are supposed to have a meeting on Sunday and hopefully he leaves. My husband has been working on the basement trying to get it perfect. We both took off on Tuesday so that he could be in the basement for demolition and I would watch the kids at my moms. We were having a great morning. We actually had a great weekend from Friday through Monday. I found out that his son Eric has Covid or actually is showing symptoms of covid. So I told My husband that when he’s doing laundry to make sure that Eric washes his clothes separately and a separate text that to make sure he has it all washed so he could pack it to go to his moms house on Sunday both at the same time but he responded ok in the middle. He then calls me after receiving the text about Eric moving back to his mothers house and says that once Eric moves, things will be different. That none of my family will be welcomed in our home and none of his family will be welcomed here neither. He also says he’s not going to go to my family’s house for anything. He knows that my family is all I have. They’re my biggest, most important support system in my life. They’re there for me at anytime I need them and honestly when I’m so upset and my husband can’t get through to me HE calls my dad for help. But yet he’s going to shut them out over his problematic son. He’s going to choose his son who has done nothing but bring him stress, anger, frustration and discomfort over his wife and two infants who literally does every single thing for him and bring him genuine happiness. I feel defeated and just lost. I feel numb and frustrated. I feel overwhelmed and like my feelings are undermined. I feel like I’m spiraling downhill. The only reason I’m still going is my kids. They need their mommy. Both of my kids need me the most. They’re helpless and without mommy only god knows what they’ll turn into. So I’m trying and I’m crying and I’m trying to relax but I just can’t seem to stop. It’s always there. That thought of why am in it important to someone who means so much to me. It’s just sooooo much.

Now on Saturday, we were supposed to go to a house blessing and I asked him if he was up for it and he tells me “I’ll go but I don’t wanna fake laugh and smile with anyone since I gotta figure out what to tell Yvonne tomorrow.” So now I’m upset because again Eric is messing up MY family outings. I can’t even enjoy my husband the way I use to. This is sooo frustrating. It gets to a point he even suggests a divorce. He tells his son that we are separating and so I took my kids to the function without him. I did not want to come back here. When I came back home he came outside really quick to my car. He was in short sleeves and jeans and he looked at me and I looked at him and he rubbed my back and I was like why’d you come outside like that it’s cold you’re gonna get sick and he said and he teared up I’m happy you’re home. I told him that I love him and that I don’t wanna leave him. I told him that he’s one of the people who have made my life so much happier. Then he goes on to saying that I need to work with him. And I said I’m trying to but I’m not happy or comfortable. He said what if junior was in Eric’s situation and I said then send him back to me. He then said that is not what is best for Eric. So again. Eric trumps everyone. I’m so over this shit.