a break?

Question

heyyy ladies i need advice.
quick backstory...
my boyfriend and i have just started dating. (2 months) and have been close friends for over a year, we are both in our last year of highschool. he suffers from depression (something he doesn’t talk about much) and as of last week, he has become really distant, saying he’s not in a good place right now. 
i’m confused as to what my place is in this at the moment. he doesn’t really want to talk and when he does it’s dry. it’s beginning to upset me a lot   and his therapist has said that he shouldn’t be in a relationship right now which makes things even more complicated. so we... we’ll more he decided we should take a break cause he didn’t think it was fair on me at the moment.
has anything similar happened to you?
is it because it’s early on in the relationship?
what should i be doing?
should i wait it out?
i don’t know an awful lot about depression, could y’all give me a bit more inisight? 
much love 
z

Answer

My friend went through something similar. Break the relationship off but continue to let him know that youre there if he ever wants to talk. He may lash out at you but just stay patient and let him now he’s okay. Him lashing out is not at you even if it seems he is so just make sure to stay calm and try to help him.

Answer

So i went through this with my husband when we were dating. I just want to say that everyone’s relationship is different and what worked for me may not work for you. I know if it were me and my therapist was telling me being in a relationship wasn’t a good idea then I would have so much anxiety about being in the relationship even if that’s what I wanted. But I also a girl so I know my emotions are different. 
When I was dating my husband he went through a really rough time and needed a lot of space. We have talked about it since and he told me that it was nice to know that there was always someone there (even if he wasn’t talking to me about stuff). We were also really young at the time so it was hard for him on top of having depression. I would definitely have a conversation with him and ask if he thinks it would be a good idea to take a little break. I would definitely be careful during this conversation because you don’t want to come off as if you don’t care about him. I would just tell him you are wanting to do whatever will help him. 
And obviously if you are feeling uncomfortable being in this situation and it gives you anxiety to be in the relationship then I would probably end it. It can be very emotionally draining to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t seem to care. I’m sure you know that depression can be really hard to get through and it can appear that you don’t care about anyone else even though you do. 
Hopefully this all makes sense. I know it’s kinda long

a break?

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