I didn’t mean to be rude....

I grew up in an abusive home. My mom and I get along great now, but she’s extremely difficult to live with. She has sever OCD and would make us clean till the dust sparkled. We absolutely HAD to fold the towels in three folds. If we didn’t she would make us do them over and over again until we got them exactly how she wanted them and if we took too long to get it right she want scream at us and belittle us mentally and emotionally abuse us. So it’s drilled into me. Now I absolutely cannot have my towels not folded that way. My boyfriend doesn’t fold them like that, but I don’t say anything to him about it. I just simply refold the towels. It’s an issue with and not him. But he finally got super pissed at me about it today and throw a handful of laundry at me and said he’s never helping me fold laundry again because I’m so ungrateful for his help with folding laundry. I explained to him forever ago why I do it and he I did gain today and just said I’m sorry, but I can’t help it. He said he didn’t care, that I’m extremely rude and can do the laundry myself from now on. I feel awful because I didn’t mean to be rude. It’s just so drilled into me that it bothers me when they aren’t folded “correctly”....