So my husband and I agreed that we want to try for baby #3, which I am excited for, because I just love my boys so much, but I also want to try for a girl, but either way, we regretted waiting to have our second son, and we both have always wanted 3 children.

The problem is, if I were to get pregnant, I don't think I'd want to know, I don't think i would want to tell my husband, I wouldn't want to know the gender or go see my Obgyn until it is time to deliver, and I don't want to be selfish, but I'd just want to keep the pregnancy to myself, and enjoy it. I had truly truly horrible pregnancy experiences the last 2 times, and I would want to enjoy this one without getting bad news, or my husband ruining the babyshowers because "he doesn't have time for that"...

Needless to say, I don't have any pregnancy photos from either pregnancy, I did all the work for the first baby shower because my husband chose to work that day (he's an artist so he paints, carves, and sets up meetings on his own time) and then the pandemic hit and I had no second baby shower, and I hardly went to any obgyn appointments this last time.