Failed FET back to back .

Veena

Things are going very worst with me.. Got to know my 2nd FET Dint happen.. beta came negative.. When I asked my Gynec.. she suggested to go fr donor egg and Try... My DH is very much upset. . Its all fate.. He directly blaming me that iam incapable of bearing a single child .. Its been 8 year of my marriage.. Iam totally broke into pieces today.. No more embryo left for me.. Iam feeling so shuttered .. I am unable to accept the fact .. I don't know what to do.. Because of me and my fate.. not even me .. every one are so upset.. Its india.. we stay in joint family.. situation is still worse as my younger co sister already with a toddler now .. Iam still struggling to get pregnant.. Iam hating myself .. Please help me how do i come out of this phase.. My tears are not stopping atall.. I feel to give up myself from this world.. but being educated working women.. i should not set myself an example to others who are in same situation. Hell women..

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Sh

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Hi Venna, being from India too, I understand what you feel. How many tries have you done? Took me 8 FETs to be successful. I finally have a 1 month old. I do want to say that if you want to do this, do it for yourself, not for what others think or what your family members say. Its sad that your husband isnt more supportive. Many men are like that. Explain to him that blaming you wont help the situation you are in, rational thinking will help. Try again, you will be successful. Please DM if you want to talk

Ke

Ke • May 27, 2021
This is wonderful advise 🤍

Sh

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Also, not sure why your gynaec is saying donor eggs with just 2 transfers. Did you get the embryos tested? Have you got all your other tests done to rule out things like rubella, etc? Have you'll done karyotyping to ensure that genes are ok? Have you tried prednisolone, lovenox, etc with your transfer? I dont think just 2 FETs are enough to give up!

Ge

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I am so so sorry. Please do not hate yourself, it is not your fault at all. Allow yourself time to grieve and try to be kind to yourself ❤️