3rd baby?!

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Idk if this is the right place to post this but HELP. I’m literally so torn on having another baby. My kids are currently 3(f) & 4(m) my husband also wants one BUT I suffered from severe postpartum depression/anxiety after my second baby, it got so bad I had to contact my dr after hours and be brought in on an emergency appointment to be put on medication because I couldn’t sleep for days at a time, all I could think about was hanging myself. It was the darkest point in my life trying to dig myself out of that hole but I did the work and I’m so much better! I’m off all my medicine now except my sleep aid because insomnia is still strong. The urge to have another one is so strong that I think about it 20+ times a day. My husband is afraid that this time I’ll end my life because I came so close last time. I think that it will be fine as long as we take all of that into consideration and start me on medication as soon as the symptoms appear. I don’t think it should stop us from expanding our family but I know my husband is afraid to lose me. Would you have another baby after experiencing something like that? Or is it selfish to put my family through that again? I’ve never pictured us with only 2 kids.

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I wish I can vote maybe. But before having another one make sure you talk to your doctor about it and maybe even a therapist to make sure you have professional help through the pregnancy.

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Some anxiety/depression medication is safe to be on while your pregnant even if you wanted to start it now so you don’t have a problem afterwards!!

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First, there is never anything selfish about a woman wanting a baby. In fact, I think it’s the most natural thing in the world. I had severe post partum anxiety after my first, and it kept us afraid for years to try again. I finally had a second child when my first one was six. Let me tell you, it was nothing like the first time. I had a different doctor, one who was much more hands on and proactive. As soon as I started feeling worried she had me get a high quality B complex supplement and that took care of the anxiety, surprisingly. Here is what I would recommend if you were a dear friend of mine: find a good, holistic practitioner and meet with her/him to discuss your overall health and what deficiencies, if any, you currently have. Correct those, and make sure you are in the best possible health. For me, finding my naturopathic doctor changed my life. The appointments are an hour long and we go over everything and anything. All this isn’t to say that you shouldn’t seek conventional medicine like what you had to take before... all I’m saying is take care of your body first. That will give you the best possible foundation to grow your family.

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You need to focus on yourself and make sure you’re healthy first.

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I would love to vote yess ! But please take all the precautions you need to if you do plan on having a a 3rd your mental
Heath is just as important as your physical health when it comes to your baby. So just be 100% sure

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Well, I would have another one that’s just me, but I’d also symptom spot and stay in contact with my doctor. Take all the necessary precautions you can. If you want another one don’t let your post Partom stop you but also talk to your doctor or as well. If they think you will be okay as long as you start medication as soon as pregnancy is over or when you spot symptoms then you should be fine but every pregnancy is different. Your last pregnancy may have been tough but this new pregnancy may be better. I’ve seen people have it bad with one but very easy with another, you just have to be careful. That’s just my opinion though.

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Would that be something you and your OB could just really be prepared to deal with after baby is born? You and your doctor are obviously well aware of how ppd went last time so just being on top of things could help prevent things? I would consult your doctor for sure especially since you both feel your family isn’t complete. ♥️

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I say yes because if you’re constantly thinking and wondering you definitely want another one. The fear of regret in the future of not trying for another one also. If you’re open and honest with your ppd if you have it then you can make it through. You already mentally went through PPD and look at you now. You can do it!!

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