Hello moms, I need your opinion on some issues I’m having with my brother and law and his girlfriend and their treatment of their 6 week old son. It’s a long one buckle up.

Bit of backstory- brother in law and his girlfriend got together in April 2020, it was his very first girlfriend. His brother announced he was having a baby in may of 2020 and after 6 weeks of being together other brother and law and his girlfriend decided they were going to start trying to have a baby. Everyone assumed it was because there was no attention on them, and it’s beginning to seem more and more like that.

The baby is now six weeks old- the day they got out of the hospital I noticed they posted a photo on social media and had the baby in the middle of the back seat forward facing. They claimed it was just for the photo but his mom called my husband and yelled at me for calling out the brother on Facebook and that I was an asshole. We decided if that’s how they were going to be, we’d stay away from them.

The baby was nursing from day one- week 5 and constantly throwing up after every single meal, she’s only nursing for about 6 minutes per session or less, and she usually pulls him off once she’s decided she’s done nursing, not when the baby decides he’s done. They claimed he’s having issues with lactose so I recommend cutting dairy from her diet- they said we eat too much cheese to be able to do that. End of week 5 they’ve finally decided to switch him to formula they are now on their 4th brand/kind of formula and he is still “projectile vomiting” after every feed. They’re not giving him long enough for his body to adjust to anything before giving up and trying something new. According to them he’s only sleeping about 2 hours a night and screams constantly like he’s in pain (hes probably hungry) I found out 2 days ago she put some ice cream on her finger and fed it to him 🤦‍♀️ and today I learned she left him home alone while he was sleeping because she needed a break.

It seems as though the novelty of having a baby has worn off and they’re just neglecting him now that he’s a burden. I don’t really know how else to describe it

What do I do? Who do I call? Everytime I say something I’m an asshole and the family refuses to speak to me, my father in law tried to tell them they were overheating the baby and they snapped on him, so everyone in the family with a brain is tired of them. I’ve been avoiding them best I can, but it’s exhausting seeing and hearing about how they’re treating this poor baby. But my husband tells me to mind my business. Is there anything I can do other than making a report with my local mobile crisis unit? In Canada by the way. But I’m open to opinions.